Trick or treat? Fool or let be taken by a fool? Imbrace your sorrow or create a positive path?
Before you get married you think that it will be all pink and butterflies, all the days will be just like at the beginning and every day will be full of laughs … you think or you will make it to be like this?
There is no such thing as “only sweet”, but instead is bittersweet, you know, just like a gin cocktail, it is bitter but sweet in the same way and you still drink it and love it.
Yes, there will be days full of love, tenderness and laughs but what will happen when all of those will go away in a second, after a wrong word told without thinking too much?
Well, you will feel despair and sadness and of course is normal. It is, because there is bad and good and we, the people are created to be both bad and good. Do not get me wrong, do not imagine a life full of sadness and tears, but for sure those moments can come because we are humans and he have emotions…and different reactions to it.
So, you got married, everything is perfect until one day, that day when you feel the person next to you is “changing”. No my dear, there is no such thing as changing … yes we can do that but in time not in a second!
Some people think that a paper can allow them to skip the “filter of words” (that moment when you just throw out all the words that pop in your mind and do not think if you will disappoint or offend).
Marriage means to negotiate a concession not a compromise, do not let go of what you love or like, agree on it to settle for some “rules of living”.
If until you got married you had to live only with you, with your pleasures well now is the time when you have to live with her / his pleasure too.
Selfishness will break your bond, love in general means to give and to receive not only to receive.
You will be the guard of your half, the one who takes care of this new person, to bloom a style of living in two.
Sacrifice and tolerance will be the two keys for you. We have different perspectives and ideas but we must (like a quote says) “agree to disagree”; don`t go in a fight or an argue, realise that you are unique and you cannot agree all the time for the same idea.
Tough love? Nope … just real love, if you feel it you will resolve all of the downs that will come.
Take it easy, do not rush or you will fall … learn to be patient, there is nowhere to run, you signed to be together all your life so you have plenty of time.
Be kind, let the meaningless wickedness behind .. there is no room for it.
Marriage is not a battle field, but the place where you receive and give emotional support, moral support, time, positive feelings. You will feel a lot of anger and frustration from outside your home so why to waste time with those when you can calm yourself at home?
Take care of your love, is the only thing that lifts you up
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Well, it would not be okay before you quit looking for a person who has about the same pleasures and goals in life? Why would you need to look for an opposite of my own? Do not you think it's harder to indulge in such a way I know that it's said that two people have to fill in, but I guess it's harder to manage such a relationship.
Otherwise a successful article.
Ionut ... I don t know what have you understood from my article but is about resolving your shit not searching for someone else .. Improve your english skills so everyone can understand your point of view. Thank you for your comment! Have a good day!
Ok sa presupunem ca engleza mea este proasta,dar ai vorbit destul in textul tau despre casatorie si probleme care pot aparea.De ce sa nu le evitam de la inceput si sa incercam sa nu ne indragostim de persoane care nu rezoneaza cu principiul nostru de viata si cu placerile noastre.Multe cupluri se despart foarte des doar pentru ca sunt luate de valul dragostei si mai apoi isi dau seama ca nu au nimci in comun unul cu altul.Poate am inteles eu gresit textul,dar....nu stiu ce sa zic.
Tu ai scris in textul de mai sus ca ar trebui sa cautam alta pers cu aceleasi placeri ca si noi inainte sa iesim din relatie ... Cu totul si cu totul altceva fata de ce ai scris acum ... Putem rezona dar nu 100%, mereu pot aparea sa zicem nesimilaritati dar ideal este sa le rezolvam prin concesie nu compromis.
ok am inteles acum, un cuvant pus gresit a iesit cu totul altceva :"iesim ","intram".
Hi! I would love to be that simple to solve everything by just talking, giving and waiting feedbacks, but sometimes we are too hasty, too bad, too ...too, and do not solve it so. I try to do it everyday and I hope to solve it one day.