It is unreasonable to believe your parents were perfect and were able to raise you without making a mistake (usually many mistakes and omissions, as well). Nor should you think they are the worst
people on earth.
You could not have survived your childhood if they were. It is probably reasonable to say they were wellintentioned people with flaws—perhaps even serious ones. Whatever they did or didn’t do, each of us is responsible for recovering from our upbringing.
They were probably wrong about money. This doesn’t make them bad people, just flawed. What follows is a discussion of each element of family dynamics:
bonds, boundaries, rules, and roles.