SATURDAY NIGHT WITH ZIZY EPISODE 9

Hurray!!! Goodevening everyone and welcome to another exciting edition of your favourite show, "Saturday Night with Zizy". This is week 9 and counting and I wouldn't have come this far without you guys. Thank you so much for all your upvotes, reesteem, beautifully constructed comments and time out with Zizy on Discord every Saturday. Thank you for spending your Saturday nights with me.

I sincerely wish there is a way I can reward you all but I believe it is all a matter of time. Before I bring to us what I have today, I want to take this time out to say a big thank you to the following regular commentators on this show; @mimy, @switmag, @jeaniepearl, @rebeccafl, @rosyblessing, @jeline, @eurogee, @funmiakinpelu, @one-person, @shemzy, @dubem-eu, @adoore-eu. You are all awesome. A special thank you to @vheobong, girl, you light up the comment section. @surfyogi, thank you for all your support in all ramifications.

Last week, I had some new faces on the show and I also want to appreciate them for coming around and leaving great comments long enough to serve as a post. Thank you @innocentshekinah, @mizdais and @iamthegray, hope to see you around the more. Those who won SBD on the show last week have been rewarded. Alright, straight to the business of the day.

DJ play the music in jenifa's voice...LOL

RELATIONSHIP TALK WITH ZIZY

Last week on this segment, we talked about cheating; the causes and I left us with a question that says, "Can a relationship survive after cheating?" I got some very amazing responses and a very controversial response both on the comment section and on Discord during the live broadcast. It was a great outing and I promised to share some of the comments so we all can learn and deliberate on them.

@korexe in answering the question has this to say:

Yes, a relationship can survive after an incident of cheating is uncovered but this largely depends on those involved. Our approach to issues differ but it will take a forgiving spirit, love and discipline for that relationship to work after such an ordeal.

When asked if forgiveness is the way out and what about forgetting since it is a known fact that most times, the wounds heal but the scar remains; @korexe has this to say:

Yes forgive. Forgetting is almost impossible. The hardest part is forgiving. When one truly forgives, the pain disappears and yes a partner can trust wholeheartedly again, it may take time and work but it can be done.

This is good stuff guys. I do hope you learn one or two things from it. Moving on, a first commenter on the show impressed with her response. In responding to the question she asked some questions not her own that she believed if truthfully answered can help one decide if to remain in the relationship after an episode of cheating or to move on. She has this to say:

@mizdais: first of all, do not give up so fast. Try and dig down to the root of it all, how it all started. How and why did you develop emotions for the other person? What was lacking all of the sudden in your current relationship? Having done this and fully analyzed the problems then you can determine if the relationship can still survive or your best is to just move on.

NOTE: This advice is for the person who cheated on his/her partner. Figure out if it was just a mere affair or it is deeper than that. Spare your partner more hurt and just move on. It is an honourable thing to do.

@surfyogi has this to say;

I don't like it when a woman I am in a relationship with does things behind my back and lies to me. That I do not appreciate but I won't break up over it certainly, I consider it "repairable" but most women in my experience do not feel this way in return.

Okay I have to react to this. I am of the opinion that women consider relationship repairable more than men when they are cheated on. Women have somehow come to accept the cheating habit of men under the guise of their polygamous nature. Some women even go as far as expecting to find out that their man is cheating. It is not healthy. Men have made it seem like sex is just sex, no emotional attachment and hence when caught should be forgiven. On the other hand, men do not take it lightly if they find out their woman is cheating because they understand that most times when a woman cheats, emotions are usually involved. It is not just sex. The society view women as moral agents and hence frowns at women cheating more than men would ordinarily do but then this is Nigeria!

The controversial comment I would love us to analyze is a comment from @iamthegray.

The reason people still have issues with cheating is because, in the man's case, he feels less than a man. He feels he couldn't satisfy her enough or she considers some guy better than him or he doesn't see her as a man. That's why most men have issues with a cheating partner. They think of the person she cheated with and get angry.
For females, they've been forced to accept that a man is a licentious creature. Thankfully, that's changing. I remember a friend told me she doesn't mind her bf having sex outside as long as he uses condoms.
My point is, sex isn't really a big deal until you make it so. Funny thing is, I told my guys earlier this week that I have no problems with a cheating partner as long as it's just sex and nothing more. What folks should focus more on is the communication channel and support.
The issue should be on why she cheated. In fact, cheating can even be a good thing. It could force both partners to come to the table and trash out issues. But nah, most guys instead begin to measure dicks and slowly the girl looks like a harlot in their eyes

After careful reading, I picked out some controversial points I want us to discuss tonight.

1. Is it okay for a man to have sex with any woman so long he uses protection even though he is married or in a committed relationship?
2. This statement, "it is just sex", is it ever just sex?
3. Are there advantages to cheating?

Please my wonderful readers, I would love to read some awesome responses from you all. Set the comment section ablaze!!!

DATING TIPS

It is not about getting someone to think you are good enough for them. It is about finding someone you can stand to spend a ridiculous amount of time with. It is about finding the puzzle piece you fit with.

FUN CORNER (JUST FOR LAUGHS)

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So the banana said to the vibrator, "why are you shaking"? She is gonna eat me. (If you know you know).

DEAR ZIZY

ANONYMOUS

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Dear Zizy, Please I have something bothering my mind that I want you to share let me hear the opinion of your followers. I came back home after three months of being away for a course abroad and discovered postinor 2 in my wife's drawer. My marriage is just 7months old. Could she be cheating on me? Please keep me anonymous and notify me when posted.

CONCLUSION

Wow! What a trip all the way down here. We have finally come to the end of the show. I hope you enjoyed every part of it? If you have comments for every segment, do not worry Steemit doesnt penalize you for dropping more than 1 comment on a post. Why not express yourself and check out other peoples comment too? It's always fun interacting.

If you love this show and want to support, your SBDs and Steem are very welcomed. Supporters so far are @eurogee, @amec and @samminator @sammest and @smyle. Thanks a lot guys.

I hate to leave you but leave you I must. Until next time when I come your way again, same time, same blog, more hosts, I remain
Yours truly
@zizymena.
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@korexe made my new graphic design.