Hello beautiful Steemians, it is another beautiful Saturday evening here on the block chain, the last Saturday in the month of July and a very rainy one in Asaba, Delta State Nigeria. I don't know about you but this weather has been putting seriously in the mood. Do not ask me in the mood for what...LOL. Yes it is time for yet another interesting episode of your most favourite relationship show on the block chain, "Saturday Night with Zizy" and it is Episode 18. Forward ever, backward never. Like I always say, I wouldn't have come this far without you guys.

Last week was sir @surfyogi's birthday and the wafrica discord server was agog with activities all in the honour of a selfless individual who has done so much for the Nigerian community especially the ladies. Winks I had to move my show upward from the usual 8pm on the airhawk discord server to as late as 10:30pm. Do I regret it? No way! It was so much fun with lots of recharge cards and steem giveaways and we retired to bed as late as 1am. Thank you @uche-nna, @emekasegun, @itoroarchibong, @ifeoluwa88, @djoi, @princessvenessa, @seyidous, @vickyrich, @princessvenessa, @samest😘. I hope I am not forgetting anyone. Anyway these guys are lit I must say.

As it is my nature, I shall take this time out to sincerely appreciate all of you who took time out to visit the show and drop meaningful comments. @burlarj, @kwinesther, @joseph60, @dklef, @rebeccafl, @korexe, @igweyakubu, @vintageverve, @eurogee, @shemzy, @celebritygist, @vheobong, @kamtasia and @mizdais..my lovely lovely lady. As at the time of writing this post, all rewards have been given out.

RELATIONSHIP TALK WITH ZIZY

Last week on the show, we talked about the importance of apologizing and why some people find it hard to apologize. Saying I am sorry like we said last week is never a sign of weakness but a Hallmark of strength. It simply passes across a message which says I value my relationship more than my ego. While saying I am sorry sounds so easy, it is important that we make the apology heartfelt and genuine. An apology should be more than mere recitation of "magical words". It is imperative we take practical steps to support the change we intend.

WAYS TO APOLOGIZE AND GET POSITIVE RESULTS.

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☆Say it and mean it.

It is far more productive to allow your guilt to move you into taking responsibility for your actions and into validating your partner's feeling if hurt. Apologizing should stem from deep regret. When you deeply regret your actions, you wish you can go back in time and make it right. Before apologizing, you must first of all,accept that you have indeed done wrong. Make your apology specific by accompanying it with the mention of what you did or didn't do.

☆Do it at the right time

Saying I am sorry in the heat it an argument sometimes is like adding fuel to the fire. It has little or no effect as the person is still deeply hurt. Time they say heals all wounds. It is wise to let the issue cool off a bit before approaching it with your apology. A calmer person listens better than an aggrieved soul. When your partner is a lot calmer it gives you an opportunity to address whatever it is that happened better.

☆Do not be defensive

When you acknowledge that you hurt your partner by stating it clearly, their anger immediately gets deflated. If you go about explaining why you did what you did and trying to prove you aren't at fault by using the word "but" , it completely invalidates the first part of the sentence. Avoid as much as possible the word "but". Do not be defensive, take responsibility for your actions.

☆Watch your body language*

The manner in which you apologize is very important. Make sure that your body language expresses what you feel. Except distance is a barrier, it is imperative you apologize in person maintaining eye contact. Keeping arms crossed or akimbo suggests pride and unrepentance. Your entire focus should be on the person you are apologizing to.

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☆Ask what you can do to make it right.

This shows you are ready to make amends. By asking the question , you put the offended party in a position of control of how the outcome of the situation could play out and this helps them express what they nee to move past the hurt.

What has been done has been done and cannot be altered by apology. However, a genuine apology can ease and release the stress. When we apologize genuinely, it goes a long way in affecting the future of our relationship. We heal ourselves whenever we refrain from repeating an action that we understood to be hurtful to our relationship.

DATING TIPS

As you communicate with each other, don't listen only to what the other person is saying, also listen to the emotions underneath the words. Pay attention to the tone of the voice, body language and what is not being said as well as the context of the words. This helps you understand your partner and respond in ways that leads to a long lasting relationship.

FUN CORNER (JUST FOR LAUGHS)

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Is it true that broke guys last longer in bed? (If you know you know)

DEAR ZIZY

Anonymous 1

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I'm Pete (Pseudonym), I am 22 and a virgin. I come from an average family. I wouldn't say I am too handsome but I am averagely good looking. There was a phase in my life when I was hyperactive and always drawn to the opposite sex. Mere looking at a pic gives me a boner and this made me chase a lot of girls with different tactics (sweet mouth, dressing, money) but they all rejected me despite my looks and money. I resorted to porn but found it disgusting, masturbation is irritating and sex workers are a no no for me. After trying desperately to get a girlfriend with no success, I gave up. Now I have lost interest in girls and do not get sexually around even when a girl goes unclad before me. The only erection I now get is the early morning erection. I am not gay but I am starting to worry. Do you think something is wrong with me?

Anonymous 2

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Furious cannot even explain the way I felt last night when I came back home from work. In the morning before I left for work I gave my girlfriend 1k that she should make yam for dinner. On getting home, she served me dinner and yes she made yam quite alright but could you believe she served me yam with palm oil? If I wanted palm oil with the yam I won't give her 1k since I have yam and oil at home but I don't eat it. On enquiry of what she did with the 1k, she said she used it to buy shortbread with Malt in the afternoon when she felt like eating sweet mouth. Honestly Zizy, I am still angry even at this moment. I lost my appetite and went to have my bath only form to come out and found her eating the yam and palm oil. Uptil now she is not convinced she did anything wrong. I am seriously considering not marrying such a lady. Is my anger justified?

CONCLUSION

Wow! What a trip all the way down here. We have finally come to the end of the show. I hope you enjoyed every part of it? If you have comments for every segment, do not worry Steemit doesnt penalize you for dropping more than 1 comment on a post. Why not express yourself and check out other peoples comment too? It's always fun interacting.

If you love this show and want to support, your SBDs and Steem are very welcomed. Supporters so far are @eurogee, @amec and @samminator@sammest and @smyle. Thanks a lot guys.

I hate to leave you but leave you I must

Until next time when I come your way again, same time, same blog, more hosts, I remain

Yours truly

@zizymena.

first to comment, first to answer all segments and first to answer impressively wins some sbd