Live together in a healthy relationship and get long and lasting relationships, How is your relationship?.
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Take yourself as a dog and a cat. It is said of two people or groups that get very bad between them. This phrase is the reflection of the rivalry that has existed between both species throughout history and that has always led to multiple persecutions and fights. However, today we can find pairs of dogs and cats that have a great relationship, especially if they have been raised together.
There are many who say; "It's one thing to be a boyfriend and another to live together," others say; "You never know the person until they live together." Actually no one was born learned, life is a world of teachings, many couples and families have separated because they do not know how to lead a good coexistence at home, families are mostly governed by the standards of society, when they pass the door At the entrance to the house, the masks are removed and they show their true "I". There are even people who believe and are completely sure that they were born to live alone, because their levels of tolerance towards others is so low that nobody supports them.
Between a woman and a man, there can be a lot of love, you can love with frenzy, but that is not enough when sharing the same roof, there are factors that intervene when living together, those factors are what mark the stability in home.
I will start with the first rule of coexistence that I consider principle is the most important principle of all.
Respect.
I will start by saying that it is respect, it is the consideration, tolerance, acceptance that one has towards a person or thing by some quality, situation or determining circumstance, that entails to abide by what dictates or establishes without causing harm or offense.
Why does "respect" influence so much in a relationship of coexistence?
Because respect brings with it, loving, positive reactions and disrespect attracts the opposite.
I'll give you an example that will help you understand.
If you have an orchard, and you plant strawberries you will have the security, that what you will harvest will be strawberries, farmers will not sow strawberries to harvest lemons.
Life reacts in the same way, if we sow love, we will receive love, if sow respect you should receive respect, but if you sow hatred, lies, disrespect, deceit, or mistreatment, never expect to receive love, respect, sincerity and good treatment, This is what I call the law of reciprocity, you receive what you give. That is why give other people what you want to receive for yourself, but it is important to know that it is better to give without expecting anything in return, because it influences when we have a partner, remember that we are not all equal, if you do not receive what that is giving, take the time to talk, it is important to let your partners know what you feel, so you will avoid discomfort that is allowed to happen, but that will fill the drop of tolerance drop by drop, until it overflows and spills becoming in a wrath of bad words, where they will say something that possibly out of rage, do not think and deeply hurt their loved ones.
Life is like a boomerang, everything that comes out returns to its point of origin.
Respect to be respected.
The communication.
This is another fundamental principle when maintaining a relationship and living together healthily, if there is respect, which is the first factor in coexistence, there should be a good channel of communication, to establish good communication it is important to know its concept.
Communication is the continuous act where through a channel we exchange information between two or more people.
That is why, maintaining good communication at home, avoid having misinterpretations or appreciations about one, or something else in particular. Usually when we feel in our comfort zone (house), we act as we really are, which leads to having certain characteristics that we do not have when we are in public, for example. Many people when they are alone, they rummage through their nose almost in any area of the house, which they would not do in front of another person. Now once we start to share a life with another person, the first few months we avoid doing that type of acts that can generally generate displeasure, but over time these acts tend to occur involuntarily, and this causes the couple to be unhappy, but couples due to lack of trust and communication, they do not transmit to their partner the displeasure that they cause, which slowly generates the loss of love.
When living together, every detail in a relationship matters, be it positive or negative, it is important not to keep quiet, they must talk about everything that bothers them, and not only what bothers them, but what they share on a daily basis must communicate it to maintain a harmonious relationship in the home.
Another important factor is giving space to your partner.
It happens that every person needs a space for himself, and if we are sharing a life with another person we must respect his space, this does not mean that they will live isolated lives and that they will maintain an intermittent relationship within the home. It is important to maintain guidelines that should previously be discussed in order to maintain the limits of space between each person, and that is where respect respects again.
My personal example, in my house my wife and I have no secrets, we tell ourselves the things that do not bother us at the moment, and if for some reason or other we bother about something, at the moment, we communicate it so as not to create a toxic relationship, we decide be a couple and get married, to share a whole life together, that is why, based on this principle, we make decisions at home, for the reason of sharing everything, from the phones to the least, to not give space to doubts and distrust.
It is important to carry out a synchronicity in our home in order to maintain a good coexistence, the guidelines must be placed together and both must be in agreement so that they respect and cooperate in their compliance.
Another point is to learn to discuss.
There is an example that I want to give you; When two people are in love and are in that beautiful process of courtship where everything is love and perfection, it happens that the mode of communication of the lovers is soft, they almost speak to the ear in a very low tone of voice but still understand each other, This happens because the lovers are so connected that it is enough just to look at each other to understand each other.
But what happens when we are upset ?, happens that it is that moment of anger, the lovers are out of sync and lose the frequency of communication which generates that couples do not listen and triggers a series of events that produces that people can not coexist, usually couples when they argue with anger, tend to shout things or even worse to disrespect and even go as far as to attack the other, physically and psychologically, if you are incurring this error, the moment something bothers you take one minutes for you, breathe and when you are calmer or calmer, look for your partner and talk like two adults who are uncomfortable.
You can put an end to the problems of coexistence in your home, if you have really exhausted all resources, for trying to maintain a harmony in your life as a couple, in the coexistence of the home and communication problems persist, respect is important that thinks that the solution is that you can not live with that person in specific, not all the people are born the one for the other, this is why they should know very well with whom they are going to share the same roof, this process is usually lived during the courtship or during friendship, know very well with who goes out, visit your home, observe carefully, how you behave when faced with problems and how you face them, if that person is disorderly and you are not sure if they will live together problems, but if the two are already living together, they feel to speak and establish a middle point of coexistence and the rules will do the rest.
Tolerance can be nurtured if, in mutual agreement, they establish rules, it is in the personality of each person, the importance they give to these rules to comply with them.
In conclusion, for anyone is a secret how difficult it is to live with another person who is totally different from you but we take into account these small and short advice that I am giving them and that me and my wife has worked to maintain a coexistence in harmony and a lot of love.
- Respect.
- The communication.
- Space.
- Learn to discuss.
- the tolerance.
And if none of this works (Change partners)
I hope this publication has been to your liking and I hope you learn to lead a loving life, with good fundamentals in your home and that your relationships are long and lasting.
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