The fear of relating to other people and how can we overcome it?
Very good afternoon friends of steemit, today I wanted to write to all those people who have that fear of relating with other people; In addition If you feel that it is difficult for you to socialize with others to the degree to avoid people, meetings, public places ... then this is for you.
source: http://www.desansiedad.com/
For those who are not yet clear what social phobia is, it is when we avoid contact with other people. This avoidance is because you are afraid to be tried, rejected, criticized or frowned upon. On the other hand is because it bothers you to relate to other people, to talk, to live, to be seen, to fit, to socialize ... you simply feel uncomfortable around other people, especially if you do not know them.
Many times we wonder why there are people who avoid contact with other people?
Mainly because you believe that other people are dangerous for you, which threaten your well-being and your happiness. You have empowered others to determine how you feel about yourself, and therein lies the main cause; You believe more in what your judgments tell you than in the truth of yourself. In other words, you believe more in what you think people think of you than in who you really are.
source: https://mejorconsalud.com/ansiedad-social-miedo-conocer-gente-nueva/
Let's say you avoid social contact to such a degree that it has become a phobia, as if other people are dangerous simply because of the possibility that they think ill of you, or the possibility that they see in you something that you do not You like and reject.
Personally I think that being afraid of socializing is not something natural in us, on the contrary, it is natural to make community and unite with others, the problem is that in the present society we are accustomed to compete and judge us to see who is more worthy of Love and respect, talks and connivances are sometimes superficial, we rarely talk about what we really feel and think, we smile at each other when we are really angry, we respond "very well" to the question of "how are you?" Without If you want to think about how you really are.
source: http://blogs.uab.cat/maldeamores/miedo-a-enamorarse/
Obviously you will want to avoid socializing if this is the society you surround yourself with or where you have grown up, obviously that if you want to fit in, be accepted, have the talk and the perfect performance in front of others you will feel pressured and you will want to avoid it . And above all ... obviously that if you have anxiety, you are not in the best possible state to walk smiling when you really want to cry.
How we can overcome this fear.
Like all fears, you will need to expose yourself to social phobia, but once in your mind you have debated and countered negative thoughts about it. Let's say you will go to do trial and error, to discover, to be scientific, to reach your own conclusions. Expose yourself little by little, and in this way you will gain confidence in yourself, return home and make an assessment of what happened, concludes again ... and this way you can be transforming social phobia into social comfort.
source: http://www.saludypsicologia.com/posts/view/909/name:Fobia-Social
Remember that if you are afraid of others it is because you have given them the power to determine how you feel about yourself. Why do you think the other can define your feelings? You need to regain your own power and emotional autonomy and stop depending emotionally on others. This you will achieve when you are comfortable with yourself, when you accept yourself as you are and stop needing the acceptance of others to feel calm.
To conclude I Fanny Mendoza I think nature leads you to be in contact with others, but, you can decide how to have this contact, with whom and the level of connection, and others, are free to accept this connection or not, but Not because they reject you means that everyone will do it, it is worth showing you as you are and find others that are authentic with you also thank you very much for reading this article that have a happy weekend attentively Fanny Mendoza. (Fannyamor); Do not forget to share it on your profile if you found it interesting.
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Nice post buddy, I think this will help others and thanks for posting.
You're welcome thank you for the comment