I'm not a statist, but you seem to have a nice story going for yourself here. And what if valid scientific research does actually show males and females of the human species aren't so significantly different in areas such as programming? Will you say science is in on this scam you speak of? You talk about villages as if they are a bad thing, but prior to the State, many argue life was more voluntary and villages were based on respect and mutual benefit, not on hierarchies maintained through violence.

The idea that life used to be more voluntary comes from videos like this:

The nuclear family is a relatively new thing. Do you think it's part of evolution of homo sapiens or something?

Family structures of a married couple and their children were present in Western Europe and New England in the 17th century, influenced by church and theocratic governments.[5] With the emergence of proto-industrialization and early capitalism, the nuclear family became a financially viable social unit.[6] The term nuclear family first appeared in the early twentieth century. Alternative definitions have evolved to include family units headed by same-sex parents[1] and perhaps additional adult relatives who take on a cohabiting parental role;[7] in the latter case, it also receives the name of conjugal family.[1]

via Wikipedia

No one was talking about cultural marxism until you introduced it to the conversation. Seems like projection to me. Not everything is a boogie man conspiracy by The State. We'd do much better focusing on real, obvious problems such as the prison industrial complex, the "war" on drugs, the extortion/theft that is taxation, the violence caused by imaginary lines known as national borders, etc, etc.

IMO, reliance on the state has nothing to do with someone's gender identity, their view of the nuclear family, or anything along those lines. Mostly, it has to do with the myth of authority.