Emotional Health
Life has been crazy lately. We moved. My wife is pregnant. We have family members who are facing difficult challenges.
Today, my wife finally broke down. A simple text saying that someone was stopping by sent her into an uncontrolled cry. My wife is a strong woman, but she can not bear the weight of life on her own.
Sometimes we need to have those type of moments. I need one.
- I need to let go of some stress that I have been bottling up.
- I need to process some different scenarios I have faced recently.
- I need to find a way to find a healthy place in my mind.
A Simple Analogy - A Dam Holding Back The Water
This post is not all inclusive, but it is a reflection of some of my thoughts. I am reminded that it is not a great time to write a post when you are tired and stresses (or have an eye twitch due to stress), but writing can be therapeutic, so here we go!
All Dried Up
Some of us have no emotions. The water has dried up. There is nothing to give because there is nothing at all.
Our emotions have been stunted, squelched, or strained because of recent trauma or past trauma. We have experienced trauma that is so life-changing that we will never be the same, and as a result, life has left us.
Unaddressed Crack
Any leak in a dam is a dangerous one. A small crack is the starting point for a disaster unless it is addressed. Some of us are on the edge of disaster. We look strong, but our foundation is weak. We are overwhelmed or overworked. We feel we are lacking resources whether finances, family, or friends. We need know we need support, but we don't know where to find it
Catastrophic Break
When a dam explodes, watch out! The force of the water is terrifying, powerful, but uncontrolled. The force of emotions released uncontrollably can be equally terrifying.
Maintenance can not take places as the waters rush from a broken dam. All you can do is wait for the waters to pour out, watch the damage, and then wait to rebuild.
Controlled Release
Any good dam operator knows how to release the water properly.
- Is the water getting too high?
- Is the structure safe and secure?
- How will the released water impact those around it?
We have emotions and sometimes they get bottled up. We need to learn how to share our emotions with those around us in a way is both healthy for us and for other people.
The controlled release of emotion is an important part of our lives.
It shows us that we:
- know how to live in the moment well
- have labored to learn from, but not be enslaved to the past
- look to a better future for ourselves and those around us
Final Thoughts
I want to hear from you.
- Which picture most connects with how you handle emotions?
- What can you do to improve your emotional health?
Thanks for stopping by!
Depends on what day you catch me on. One of the lessons I have learned over time which you seem to know is living in the moment and not being enslaved by the past. Both are mean to be constant learning and progression. I wish there was a poof be gone button. Worrying about the future makes it hard too. You can plan a little but overthinking does as much damage.
I actually broke down in the doctor's office yesterday. (I really feel like this is all I talk about lol but it's brought up so many issues) I had major surgery a week ago. I was not out of the hospital 24 hrs when worked called and asked when I would be back. I had told them 2 weeks and they're not happy with it. I know I'm not ready to go back, but I cannot be without the income either. There are a few other things that have now added to this situation in addition to an nice shiney hospital bill, that I can't pay. Yay for affordable insurance!! Yay I got it done before I would be denied insurance due to a pre-existing condition! Yay it feel like my own country wants me dead! LOL ( sorry a little extremist there)
This picture is my reminder of where I don't want to be. I feel like this quite often. Most people that know me or associate with me, have no clue this is what my mind it's like.
I think this you might have backwards. Just because the dam breaks or leaks doesn't mean that the foundation is bad. It's a weak spot. It's kind of hard to look at a relationship like that unless, you relationship is a bit tense. With all of our turmoils, starting over, losing jobs, increasing bills and so forth. I know my relationship is solid. Yeah, we have those few moments were something pecks away at some part. We fix that before anything else. None of this is worth it if we don't have each other.
(This is what happens to me when I'm tired and posting LOL ) Hang in there have faith in each other and one step at a time. It is the only way to climb a mountain.
I appreciate your complete honesty. I hear hurt in your words, but I hope that you can find peace. I agree a lot of our limitations come from false thoughts, but as you have experienced sometimes the entire world seems against you.
Although I can't help much, I hope my worlds can be an encouragement. Keep pressing on and keep Steeming!
You are very intuitive :) I admit there is still hurt there. I try to keep each day new. Yeah, some days are hard. You have been very encouraging, it is greatly appreciated.
This is probably the one thing I love about this community is the amount of support, we all know that we have good days and bad days. We all remind each other to keep moving forward both in life and on Steemit.
I definitely can relate to this! I love your analogy of the dam, and it fits so well for all of the examples.
The controlled release is so important! What do you do for a controlled release? When our lives are very stressful, I have found that exercise and meditation, including martial arts, help me a lot to find and release the stress, physically, mentally and spiritually.
I also believe that I use writing and steem as a way to relieve stress!
I would be very interested in reading a post by you about your techniques for the 'controlled release'!
That is a great post idea. I will work on some ideas and write up a post soon. I have never been great at using exercise as a form of stress relief. I need to become more discipled in that part of my life.
My Steem blog was a great form of theary when I first joined. I had just moved back to the States and was unemployed. I needed an outlet to communicate my thoughts at that time.
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