On the Importance of Emotional Intelligence in the Workplace
I have a friend who has been working on human resources for over a year. He is not a very smart person and is particularly bad at communicating with leaders. As long as the leader talks to him about work, he will be very nervous; In addition, their leader is also a person who particularly likes to beat around the Bush. Many things are not said directly, and it is always difficult for people to think about his thoughts. Because he does not know what the leader wants, he often says wrong things and often does wrong things. In the field of human resources, many people want to become a professional manager. He is no exception, but his emotional intelligence is relatively low and he does not know how to read others 'thoughts.
He asked me this question at a party. What should I do? How can we understand the leaders 'intentions more quickly? After two days of reflection, I gave him the following reply.
Personal cultivation
With regard to the individual's own cultivation, that is entirely his own personal matter. No one else has anything to do with it, no matter how straightforward it is, it is everyone else's business. If you do not seriously improve yourself, you can only stay in "doubt", just like driving a sports car to lead people into a bustling metropolis. You lost him. Where do you think you're going? So you have to be familiar with the map.
We must contact the leaders more, listen more, and ask more, but ask "listen to the sound, listen to the sound".
As the saying goes: "listen to the sound, gongs and drums listen to the sound", what does this mean? It means nothing more than understanding, learning to listen, and looking at nature through appearances. How to listen to the music, listen to the leadership. Just think, do you and the leadership want to strengthen some communication? As the saying goes, friends do not fight do not know each other, not to mention with the leadership of communication work, do not talk do not know more than strengthen the work report is right.
Learnmore about Chinese "implicit" culture and adapt to it.
Remember a friend told a short story, which was very interesting. It said, "If one day, a girl you know very well no longer calls your name, but likes to call you" Hey "and" Hey ", then, She must be in love with you. "Since ancient times, our Chinese people have always been known for their implicit remarks." Hey, that person is quite good, it is too straight. "" Yes, if you know how to bend a little bit, you will not be so. "
