Are You Arrogant Or Do You Have an Earned Ego?

When you are self-aware of your own actions, it will make a big difference in the quality of your relationships. If you are arrogant, do you have an earned ego or do you have an arrogance born of fear of rejection? It is not a simple matter but there are some simple things that you can do to improve on this.


First of all, when you think of yourself in terms of your self-respect, what do you see yourself as? Do you see yourself as the smartest person in the room, as the most talented, or as the one who is successful in life? Do you see yourself as someone who is confident, self-assured, and happy or do you view yourself as a loser who is filled with fear and pain? If you have an earned ego then this can be hard to find because the definition of an ego can be so broad.

We all have an ego. It is a feeling that you have to protect at all costs. The problem with our ego is that it keeps us from recognizing the real us. It hides our true nature and often makes us think that we are "great" or "worthy" of love, respect, etc.

When this happens, we may start to feel as if others are against us, which is not really true. Everyone does not know what another person is thinking or feeling so there is no need to feel threatened.

When you are truly aware of your true self, you can better use that self to help others and become a role model. You might realize that you are not as brilliant as you believe you are or that you lack talent but by learning how to let go and be OK with the fact that you do not possess the skills and abilities that others have, you will come to the realization that others have them too and do not need to be ashamed or feel insecure about it. It is okay to know that you do not have what others have, but it does not mean that you should have to be depressed.

Arrogance is more than just self-confidence. Achieving perfection is not arrogant. The definition of arrogance is that you act as if you are right while knowing you are not right. This is true when others are right but you still feel right, even though they are wrong. The only true arrogance is when you take the time to be sure you are right and they are wrong.

There are plenty of people who do not care what others think of their ideas or opinions because they are right. This means they do not care what others think of their feelings or thoughts. They are able to see through the mask of the ego to the real self and feel secure in their own right. They know that they are the master of their own mind and that others are slaves to their own mind. Those who do not care about what other think will not suffer because they know themselves and are free to do what they think is best for them.


As I said before, arrogance comes in many forms and can be easily developed through self-awareness and self-acceptance. Just by understanding that you are not right all the time is good but there are times when you need to be right and that others do not care if you are or do not care about what they think.