The actual source of problems in our life - the obstacle of ''utopia''

Every principle you know, is an assumption when boiled down to its core. People often assume that if they have bad self esteem, they need to ''build confidence'' or good self esteem, but...what about... no self esteem? What rarely people question is their fundamental beliefs and what self esteem really is and why is it needed..., it is a mental concept, that sooner or later, in most cases sooner will be challenged and cause you problems. Now most of you assume that you are your thoughts, that is, that you are your mind, but if you can observe your own mind, who is observing? Because if mind could observe itself, that would create an infinite loop. So if the mind is not you, could it be, that you making an identity in your mind, is unnecessary?
When you look at your hand, you can say - there is the hand, if you describe that to another person over the phone, they will imagine a hand, but not the same kind of hand as you, now you could sit days trying to explain all the different cells that combine your hand, but even that would not be enough to describe the hand, and now ask yourself, am I even capable of ''understanding'' the hand with my thoughts, or I get a mere glimpse self concept of it and label it as the hand and assume I know what it is, but do I really? Now take yourself as an example, do you know yourself? If you really limit yourself to a concept of say ''the good looking guy/girl'' you are not thinking logically, since 1. You do not know yourself 2. Every time you assume you know yourself(which is not accurate assumption), and by your own mental concept you assume that you look bad or not have ''the good clothes '' on every time you are in public, you will feel bad, and might not even go outside and imprison yourself because it does not fit your self concept.

Take this problem and if you are really thinking, you will see that this can be applied to any problem in your life, it is preservation of identity. Why are we humans facing problems? Hostility to each other, family members, because we are in our heads, trying to define ourselves with the mind which is not capable of it.
What happens when you stop thinking? The imaginary shackles are removed and you feel free and happy, just like in childhood, and no longer hostile to anyone or need to get to a point in life when it will be ''better'', and you also feel like you do not need to know if you are right or wrong.

It does not matter who you are, you do not need to change your beliefs, this is not another principle of living, this is for consideration, and then observing for yourself and noticing the shift in yourself, at first it wont be easy, but you will get there, ask me questions if you wish.