The child expresses all his strong emotions with screams. What to do?

guada1 (59)in #edu-venezuela • 5 years ago

The child can be very noisy, interferes with their neighbors, who then look with displeasure at their parents, and parents can only dream of peace and tranquility. What should I do to make the child behave calmly?

SourceParents and teachers believe that the child was simply given the wrong instructions for behavior. The child understands this: if I scream loudly, then adults will definitely buy or do what I want.

It is not surprising that around a child, who expresses his displeasure and desires with a scream, there is a vicious pattern: the child wanted something, he shouted, the parents satisfied the need. For example: he wanted to go for a walk, but the parents did not leave him; they threw a tantrum and the adults eventually dressed him and took him directly to the swings.

SourceThere is always a way out: we must offer the child a different model of behavior, explaining that he will only react to him, when he can ask calmly, softly and politely. Satisfy the baby's desire only when he understands how to behave appropriately.

At first, it will be difficult for the child to get used to, and will react violently to this adult behavior, but over time, the calm and firmness of the parents will work. The child will begin to ask for the first time to buy a toy properly and not to scream as before.

The child expresses all his strong emotions with screams. For example, in public transport, they admire the view from the window or they start screaming and running when they meet another child of the same age in the street or at a party. It happens that they unexpectedly recall an excerpt from a favorite cartoon and try to reproduce it, quoting the words of the characters aloud.

As a result, pedestrians on the street and passengers in the carriage negatively evaluate the behavior of the baby, and it becomes a pity for their parents, trying to go home faster.

Some reasons why the child may shout are:

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The noisy behavior of the child is due to insufficient socialization, that is, it rarely occurs in society, travels little by public transport and almost does not attend pre-school institutions.
At home, such a child has become accustomed to the constant attention of parents, so he is not yet aware that the rest of the world does not revolve around him.
Parents should try to organize their life in such a way that they are more likely to communicate with different people, starting to attend sections or a group in a kindergarten for a short stay. He has to spend a lot of time among his peers to learn to understand the rules of behavior and communication that are accepted in society.
Teachers advise to instill in a noisy child the love for quiet games: coloring, puzzles, collecting stamps and several board games. The most important thing: do not exaggerate, to not have the opposite effect. A hyperactive extrovert can not become a quiet, obedient and quiet child, but rather "explode" and shed even stronger emotions.
The best option is to alternate between games in motion and quiet games, except for this, sometimes it is necessary to give the opportunity to use a voice, for example, to sing a song out loud.