How to avoid being a controlling person? - General education
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Being a controlling person is living exhausted at all times, both for who controls and for those around her.
For who is next to the controlling person:
- People must endure being compulsively controlled and this is exhausting.
- There is a continuous intrusion, whether things are right or wrong.
- Although at first glance they do not realize how exhausting it is to be a contolador, they always want to have everything under control.
Is it the obsession to control people the result of their own insecurity?
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There is much truth in that the person who controls is very perfectionist, does not like to make mistakes, but often reaches a point where he stops being an implacable judge, to become obsessive.
When people control a lot what they do in the other person is to reduce their self-esteem, because no matter how much effort is made, it is as if they had never done it.
Why are there people who are very controlling and others who are not?
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The key is almost always in the childhood that has lived or is lived, and typical of all is that automatically adopt patterns of behavior. It's not that they want to follow the behavior of the controlling person, but being educated in that environment, it ends up being that way. Being a controlling person is something harmful, it is not positive.
Keys to stop the strict control behaviors
- Accept and acknowledge that you are a controlling person.
- Recognize the mistakes.
- Being able to realize that you always tell others, how they should behave and act, without taking into account that they are autonomous and capable.
- Ask yourself why it is so controlling, if it is due to insecurity, to have recognition from others and, therefore, if that makes you feel empowered.
- We must assume that no one is perfect.
- You must assume your own limitations.
- Let yourself be helped and learn to ask for help.
- He must face self-control.
You can not cancel people's freedom, you should always let be in their essence and nature. Some control is necessary, but always in its proper measure.
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