Hmmm... How could you use your compassion to help someone who's incapable of compassion? Let alone if they are in the great majority. I think running away sounds most sensible here.

Yes, it was a communication as well as a cultural issue, since she was very Japanese.

I'm familiar with Máté Gábor. Hungarians tend to be very proud of him even if they have no clue who he is. But I read some of his books as my mom was very much into his stuff for a while. It makes sense what he says about childhood experiences shaping our reality in adulthood. But we must be constantly aware of the responsibility to shape each of our present days ourselves, to be able to handle it. The advice is good, but taking it is long, hard work.