You did a great job on this post. I really like how you conveyed your experience and self-doubt about writing the post. It is a real example of how self-compassion works.

When I begin to sink into stinking thinking, I remind myself that I'm not my thoughts. Also, that I'm perfect in this moment. If things don't work out as I planned that it is opportunity to learn and grow.

I coach a high school debate team. Many of my debaters initially equate losing with failure. I have taught them that FAIL means

First
Attempt
In
Learning!

We then go on to discuss what they can learn from the experience. Often they end up with a better understanding of the topic and are able to handle the specific point or argument style better in the future.