dont be sorry.. its fine to have your own opinion! no one has THE answer. Kids need love primarily.. you can set any limits you like, and you can even do it hard if its needed.. but the way you do it,.. now thats what this is about.. listening to the child, and their feelings is SO important.. just being heard can make a Huge difference. Being on the same level.. wow.. I have worked with total delinquant children in special schools and they are TOTALLY cool with me.. because how i relate to them.. the teachers were fucking HARD on them, full power.. and it was a fucking stupid game that never ends.. until someone is ready to actually SEE the kids and empathise wth them..

thanks for your comment! I know what you are saying, i also just disagree ;-)