A fascinating, lovely post. I grew up in a kind of matriarchy--my own home in upstate NY. My mother ran the show. She didn't "look to others to show the way". She found it, in herself. We didn't have much contact with the outside, so my mother's strength formed my worldview. My father was mostly absent. It never occurred to me that a man would be in charge. Much like the matriarchy you describe, I always assumed I would be responsible for whatever needed doing. As I grew older, this posture was sometimes interpreted as a radical feminism, but it wasn't. It was simple an assumption of autonomy and equality.
I will look into #ecotrain. As I become familiar with Steemit I'm finding communities with content that matches my interests.