THE EXPLOSIVE EFFECT OF ANGER
"Anger is like a nuclear bomb, detonate it and it explodes destroying people and things within its reach"- Camillius Ewuoso.
And that is why am always scared of those that are not quick in expressing their anger because they become that NUCLEAR BOMB WHEN THEY FINALLY EXPRESS THE ANGER THEY HAVE BEEN SUPPRESSING FOR A LONG TIME.
Anger can be so devastating and destructive and that is why many people are scared whenever they hear this "emotional feeling", they panic at the sight of someone who is angry, they themselves do not know how to manage their anger when they feel it, some over express it, some under express it, some suppress it. But anger is not something we have to panic about because everyone of us have a darkness in us; anger, rage, fear, sadness. I don't think all this are reserved only for people with horrible upbringing, I think it really exists and is part of human condition, but what is best is to develop means of overcoming them as we live our lives.
Psychologically speaking; anger is an intense emotional response to PERCEIVED provocation, hurt or threat. We get angry if someone has done something painful to us though what might seem so painful to me might not be to another person because we have different temperament or a combination of two.
A choleric and a sanguine are referred to as the SUPER REACTORS to situatuons. They tend to get angry easily most especially the cholerics even with little things done to them.
A melancholy and a phlegmatic are referred to as the LOW REACTORS. They are well reserved when it comes to expression of emotional feelings, they hardly get angry most especially the phlegmatics.
Psychologists have their way of viewing anger as being a natural and mature emotional feeling experienced by virtually all human at all times and has something that has functional value and that is why I believe in the saying that YOU WILL NOT GET PURNISHED FOR YOUR ANGER, YOU WILL BE PURNISHED BY YOUR ANGER.
Frankly speaking, getting angry is not bad, but how you manage your anger is what makes it good or bad. Aristotle once said that Anybody can become angry - that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not within everybody's power and is not easy. Sometimes anger can be good cos it becomes a driving force for prompting people to action. It is now vital to be able to distinguish between the good and the bad actions.
When people get you angry and the next action you take is directed towards achieving something good so that you can equal them; then that can be referred to as GOOD.
When you get angry and the next thing you do is to look for ways of making others pay for your emotional deficit; then it's BAD. Douglas Houston once said that "when seeking revenge, dig two graves, one for the one you want to hurt and the other one for yourself".
Let's now take a look at the effects of anger.
- Health problems with anger: The constant flood of stress chemicals and associated metabolic changes that go with recurrent unmanaged anger can eventually cause harm to many different systems of the body.
- Some of the short and long-term health problems that have been linked to unmanaged anger include:
- headache
- digestion problems, such as abdominal pain
- insomnia
- increased anxiety
- depression
- high blood pressure
- skin problems, such as eczema
- heart attack
- stroke.
That is not all to the effects of anger as there is a very long and inexhaustible list of effects which also include the following in relationships:
Creates Fear and Distrust
When you lash out in anger, it can create fear and tension in a relationship. This is especially true when the relationship is not equal: for example, between a boss and an employee, or a parent and child. Yelling at a child in anger may cause him or her to fear you, and it can cause a spouse to fear you as well. And if you do it to friends or co-workers, they will probably avoid coming to you with there problems in the future. Such actions will eventually destroy any trust they have in you.
Creates Distance and Resentment
Some people lash out in anger, but others bottle it up -- and that can be damaging to a relationship as well. Bottling up anger builds feelings of resentment that can drive a wedge into your relationships. This can be especially prevalent in close relationships, when you are trying to avoid conflict with a significant person or best friend. And the longer you simmer those feelings of anger, the more the distance will grow between you and your loved ones.
Creates Tension and Frustration
Anger can cause you to cast blame and jump to conclusions. This can be especially harmful in business relationships, at it can make interactions tense between coworkers if they feel they have to take sides, and could even spell the end of your career if things get out of hand. If you are angry at someone you see daily at work, it's important to clear the air as soon as possible.
Some people might get scared not to get angry after going through its explosive and negative effects, but just in case you get angry here are things you can do to help yourself:
If you feel out of control, walk away from the situation temporarily, until you cool down.
Recognise and accept the emotion as normal and part of life.
Try to pinpoint the exact reasons why you feel angry.
Once you have identified the problem, consider coming up with different strategies on how to remedy the situation.
Do something physical, such as going for a run or playing sport, believe me exercise helps a lot when u get angry.
Always remember that
"Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you're doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little thingsupset you"-Joel Osteen.
