BUILD CONFIDENCE AND DESTROY FEAR.(Part I)

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FRIENDS MEAN WELL WHEN they say, "It's only your imagination. Don't worry. There's nothing to be afraid of."
But you and I know this kind of fear medicine never really works. Such soothing remarks may give us fear relief for a few
minutes or maybe even a few hours. But the "it's-only-in-your imagination" treatment doesn't really build confidence and cure
fear.
Yes, fear is real. And we must recognize it exists before we can conquer it.
Most fear today is psychological. Worry, tension, embarrassment, panic all stem from mismanaged, negative imagination. But simply knowing the breeding ground of fear doesn't cure fear. If a physician discovers you have an infection in some part of your body, he doesn't stop there. He proceeds with treatment to cure the infection.
The old "it's-only-in-your-mind" treatment presumes fear doesn't really exist. But it does. Fear is real. Fear is success enemy
number one. Fear stops people from capitalizing on opportunity; fear wears down physical vitality; fear actually makes people sick, causes organic difficulties, shortens life; fear closes your mouth when you want to speak.

Fear-uncertainty, lack of confidence-explains why we still have economic recessions. Fear explains why millions of people accomplish little and enjoy little.
Truly, fear is a powerful force. In one way or another fear
prevents people from getting what they want from life.
Fear of all kinds and sizes is a form of psychological infection. We can cure a mental infection the same way we cure a
body infection-with specific, proved treatments.
First, though, as part of your pretreatment preparation, condition yourself with this fact: all confidence is acquired and developed. No one is born with confidence. Those people you know who radiate confidence, who have conquered worry, who are at ease everywhere and all the time, acquired their confidence, every bit of it.

During World War II the Navy made sure that all of its new recruits either knew how to swim or learned how-the idea being, of course, that the ability to swim might someday save
the sailor's life at sea. Non-swimming recruits were put into swimming classes. In a superficial sort of way, it was amusing to see young, healthy, men terrified by a few feet of water. One of the exercises required the new sailor to jump---not dive-from a board six feet in the air into eight or more feet of water while a half-dozen expert swimmers stood by.

In a deeper sense, it was a sad sight. The fear those young men displayed was real. Yet all that stood between them and the defeat of that fear was one drop into the water below. On more than one occasion I saw young men "accidentally" pushed off the board. The result: fear defeated.
This incident, familiar to thousands of former Navy men, illustrates just one point: action cures fear. Indecision, postponement, on the other hand, fertilize fear. Jot that down in your success rule book right now. Action cures fear.

When we face tough problems, we stay mired in. the mud until we take action. Hope is a start. But hope needs action to win victories.
Put the action principle to work. Next time you experience big fear or little fear, steady yourself Then search for an answer to
this question: What kind of action can I take to conquer my fear?
Isolate your fear. Then take appropriate action. Below are some examples of fear and some possible action cures.

TYPE OF FEAR

1. Embarrassment because of
   personal appearance.
   ACTION
   Improve it. Go to a barbershop or beauty salon. Shine your shoes. Get your clothes cleaned and pressed. In general, practice better grooming. It doesn't always take new clothes.

2. Fear of losing an important
   customer.
   ACTION
   Work doubly hard to give better. service. Correct anything that may have caused customers to lose confidence in you.

3. Fear of failing an examination.
   ACTION
   Convert worry time into study

4. Fear of things totally beyond your control.
   ACTION
   Turn your attention to helping
   to relieve the fear of others.Pray.

5. Fear of being physically hurt
   by something you can't control, such as a tornado or an airplane out of control.
   ACTION
   Switch your attention to some thing totally difterent. Go out into your yard and pull up
   weeds. Play with your children. Go to amovie.

6. Fear of what other people
   may think and say.
   ACTION
   Make sure that what you plan to do is right. Then do it. No one ever does anything worthwhile for which he is not criticized.

7. Fear of making an investment or purchasing a home.
   ACTION
   Analyze all factors. Then be decisive. Make a decision and stick with it. Trust your own judgment.

8. Fear of people.
   ACTION
   Put them in proper perspective. Remember, the other person is just another human being pretty much like yourself

Two-step procedure to cure fear and win confidence:
FIRST, Isolate your fear. Pin it down. Determine exactly what you are afraid of.

Then, take action. There is some kind of action for any kind of fear.
And remember, hesitation only enlarges and magnifies the fear.
Take action promptly. Be decisive.

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