Confidence - by @frieda
CONFIDENCE
Each person needs to have his or her values and principles, regardless of what other people say. You need to be able to judge your actions for yourself,
The only sure way to traverse through life is to have your own compass. We are of the opinion that it matters what other people think of us. There is nothing further from the truth than these thoughts.
100% Myself
I Should have done better
It matters what you as an individual think deep down, not what you like to think. We must always be honest and truthful with ourselves and accept who and what we are, not what other people think. I know someone who is repetitively disgruntled with herself. No matter how well she does at work or at home and in general, she always feels she could have done better and that she is messing up at home. To me, she is an excellent mother to her two children and such a good wife to her husband. I wish I was like that! But why has she such a low image of herself? because her own mother keeps on telling her she is not doing enough, that she is a total failure when it comes to being a mother to her children and a wife for her husband. Her mother will even imply this by withholding praise and approval from her when she was indeed doing well.
Another friend lost his father when he was very young. His mother re-married and he has spent his whole life looking for his stepdad's approval, but he will never get it. Not until he learns to find approval within himself, until then, he will be forever frustrated, striving for something that does not exist. No amount of achievement, social, personal, at work or anything else, will make him feel satisfied.
Confidence is hard to find
Confidence is hard to find when we are constantly surrounded and undermined by the people you have come to accept as judges of your achievements. Too many of us fall into this kind of trap. Confidence is a big part of it, but you need to find that confidence and learn to trust your own judgment. If possible, spend less time with the people who always judge you unkindly, and cultivate friends, family, and mentors who encourage you. People who will lift and build you up. Not people to replace one set of judgment with another better set of judgment. In the end, you are the only judge who matters. This could be really tough, but the rewards will be worthwhile. Only then can you feel comfortable with yourself in the darkest of times, or facing the hardest of decisions.
Do not life for other's approval
Don't live for other people's approval. This is not to say that you should not feel happy when someone shows approval Enjoy it. Learn to enjoy the success without the need for other peoples ratification.
If you measure your self-worth by the approval of others, you will never measure up.
To hell with the other people. You can not keep happy everyone. Just take care of your family and close friends.Do what your heart say and what makes a good story for you to remember when you get old as long as you are not harming anyone.
This post is very insightful on how to reflect on what is affecting one from being confident and how that can change. Your writing is very thought provoking and a good reminder on how to gain confidence from one's self and not from others! 😊
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a word of wisdom "We must always be honest and honest with ourselves and what we think"
I am motivated for me
My self worth is not dependent on other's opinion. Nice one @brightidea. Upvote My post too @edifon
I enjoyed reading your post. It is a lesson to many of us. We are so busy trying to measure up to those around us that we forget to see the treasures within ourselves.
I believe that, people should learn self-confidence, to live happily in the world of today. This is true, because nobody knows you, as much as you know yourself. You cannot confide in the others, as you will do with yourself. Nobody will judge you better, than how you will be able to judge yourself. This is a true concept, @brightideas. It may determine how successful someone will become in the world.
I am @gboyegaogunmola. I am writer. I am writing article on the "psychological aspect of man". I think, those people who have no confidence in themselves, will loose many opportunities, and may never become successful in life. They are likely to be engaged and engrossed with what the other people think about them, whereby, they will fail to have self-direction towards achieving their goal.
Successful life is really based, somehow on self-confidence, and the personal merits of that person.