无力对抗着整个世界的潜规则 Am I alone?|月旦评

According to Chinese ancient tradition, one family must have a boy to inherit family property. Although the epoch is improving, this old ideas is ingrained for most persons. When one couple getting married and having a birth, the other family persons would hope the baby is a boy. If the first baby is a girl, most couple will choose to give birth to second one. Why? Because boy is more important, no reasons, no rule! It is just discipline, a special unreasonable discipline.

Last night one of my colleagues gave birth a baby boy, she was so excited and said to us: she has fulfilled her duty, the next life would be more easier. Why she said that, because when she was having the baby, many many persons told her that if the baby is girl she needs to prepare to have the second. By the way she thought this decision is right, she must help her husband give birth to a boy, this is duty and task!

I have one lovely girl who is three years old. A lot of friends among me all think i need to give a birth to a second baby, but if your first baby is boy, there is no such many persons urge you to do this.

So i confused about this, i refused this, Why i must have the second baby just because my first baby is girl? Sometimes, i am really puzzled. But i know no matter i would have another baby it is just depends on my own life and thoughts, so i still persist to keep my own ideas, Could you tell me, am i alone?

社会的形态：头胎女孩，很多人都劝你二胎，头胎男孩，被劝生二胎的几率就很小。女儿嫁人，母亲都会说，要是头胎男孩以后的日子会轻松点，现实也确实是这样。

昨日一同事顺产男孩，高兴的到处宣布自己终于完成了任务，对大家有个交代。随着女儿的长大，身边很多理所当然劝生二胎的，理由完全一致：头胎女孩不生干嘛。

记得这位同事曾经说过，要是头胎女孩她得再生，现在一举得男，以后的日子会简单不少，至少婆婆不会心存芥蒂，至少孩子长大了，身边的好言相劝会少很多。

我固执的对抗着来自所有人的好言相劝，他们怪我不懂事，说我不听劝，就我而言，即使我自己想通了再要一个孩子，也只是因为我单纯想要，或者想给nina一个伴儿，绝不是因为你该生了，头胎是女儿你应该生。我就想不通了，为什么头胎男孩，就没有那么多人好言相劝。

真是无力对抗这“全世界的潜规则”！