我把你当老公，你把我当子宫｜ I put you as a husband, you put me as a uterus.

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太难过了。

大家应该都知道了，这两天微博最大的热点，就是陕西榆林产妇跳楼事件。
至于跳楼原因，医院和家属各执一词。
医院的说法是，产妇因为疼痛难忍，两次向家属要求剖腹产，甚至向家属下跪。
主管医生也建议家属剖腹产，但这些要求，都被家属拒绝。出乎意料，产妇爬上窗台，从5楼跳下，抢救无效身亡。

我只知道一个常识性判断：能带给我们致命伤害的，往往不是外人，而是身边最亲近的人。
真正能够逼死一个女人的，相比对医院的失望，更有可能是对老公的绝望。

静心想想，如果是医院的问题，产妇一定会和家属联合起来，跟医院闹，或者换一家医院。
但凡有一点点希望在，有一点点温情在，一个女人，都不会选择以这么惨烈的方式，带着即将出生的孩子，直接赴死。
大部分人自杀的理由，就是突然发现自己和世界毫无关系了。
她之所以跳楼，多半是处于极端的绝望和寒心，因为无人理解，因为身后空无一人。

生孩子，是一个女人一生中最脆弱的时刻。
然而很多男人并没有意识到。
首先，女性在生理上，经历了极度疼痛。
顺产有多痛呢？妈妈告诉我就是医生用剪刀切开你的阴道，其实都不需要麻药了。因为生孩子本身的痛感，已经远远大于剪刀剪肉的痛苦了。
而剖腹产有多痛呢？你从手术室出来，肚子上有一道十几厘米的大伤疤，麻药一过，只要稍微一动，就会炸裂般的疼痛。
上厕所的时候，双腿都发抖。
尿一半，痛得休息一会儿，深呼吸，才能尿下一半。
其次，女性在心理上，经历了极端恐惧。
十月怀胎有多辛苦，男人并不能体会。生产时躺在手术台上，无影灯啪地一亮，被打了半身麻醉，你是有意识的，你会眼睁睁地感受着医生拿着刀，一层一层切开你的肚皮，切开你的子宫……
我们就像一堆被切割的机器零件，等着被重新组装。
这个时候，我们需要的是，老公无条件地站在我们这边，理解我们的痛感和无助。
有些老公却没有做到，和大多数婆婆一样，在意的是孩子。

真的，一个男人爱不爱你，只有妇产科知道。
在妇产科，最能看出一个男人内心的价值排序。男人这么做，最让我们难过的是，你没有把我当成你最爱的人，甚至没有把我当家人。

我把你当老公，你把我当子宫。

当初结婚的时候，男人总是信誓旦旦地说，无论生老病死，无论贫穷富贵，无论疾病或是健康，我愿意永远爱她，尊重她，保护她，一生不离不弃……
女人往往都当真了。
然而，短短几年之内，在产房，他们把这个誓言完全忘光。
只有你生孩子的时候，才能真正认清你身边的男人。
原来，婚姻不是爱情的坟墓，产房才是。
愿每个人都能遇到对的人。

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Too sad.
We should all know, the two days microblogging biggest hot spot, is the Shaanxi Yulin maternal jumping event.
As for the reasons for the jump, the hospital and family members of the word.
Hospital argument is that the maternal because of pain, twice to the families of caesarean section, and even kneel down to their families
In charge of the doctor also recommended family Caesarean section, but these requirements have been rejected by their families. Surprisingly, the mother climbed the windowsill, jumped from the 5th floor, rescue invalid death.
In the case of
I only know that a common sense of judgment: can bring us fatal injuries, often not outsiders, but the closest person around.
Really able to die a woman, compared to the disappointment of the hospital, more likely to be desperate for her husband.

Meditation to think, if the hospital is the problem, maternal and family members will be together, with the hospital trouble, or for a hospital.
But where there is a little bit of hope, there is a little bit of warmth, a woman, will not choose in such a tragic way, with the birth of the child, go directly to death.
Most people commit suicide, that is, suddenly found himself and the world has nothing to do.
The reason why she jumped, mostly in extreme despair and chilling, because no one understood, because behind the empty.
In the case of Child is the most fragile moment of a woman's life.

However, many men do not realize.
First of all, women in the physical, experienced extreme pain.
How much pain is it? My mother told me that the doctor cut your vagina with scissors, in fact, do not need anesthetic. Because the child's own pain, has been far greater than the scissors of the pain.
And how long is caesarean section? You come out from the operating room, the stomach has a dozen centimeters of the big scars, anesthetic over, as long as a little action, it will burst like pain.
When the toilet, the legs are shaking.
Half of the urine, pain to rest for a while, take a deep breath, to urine half.
Second, women in the psychological, experienced extreme fear.
October pregnant how hard, men can not understand. Production lying on the operating table, shadowless lights snapped, was hit a half anesthesia, you are conscious, you will feel the doctor holding a knife, layer by layer to cut your belly, cut your uterus……
We are like a pile of cut machine parts, waiting to be reassembled.
This time, we need is that her husband unconditionally stand on our side, understand our pain and helplessness.
Some her husband did not do, and most of her mother-like, care about the child.
In the case of

Really, a man loves not love you, only obstetrics and gynecology know.
In obstetrics and gynecology, the best to see a man's inner value sort. Men do so, the most sad thing is that you did not take me as your favorite person, not even my family.

I put you as a husband, you put me as a uterus.

When the first marriage, the man always vowed to say, regardless of illness and death, regardless of poverty and wealth, regardless of disease or health, I am willing to always love her, respect her, protect her, never forget ... ...
Women are often taken seriously.
However, within a few years, in the delivery room, they completely forgot this oath.
Only when you have children, can really recognize the man around you.
It turned out that marriage is not the grave of love, maternity is.
Everyone can meet the right person.

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