当我们在乎别人看法的时候/When we care about the opinions of others

当我们在乎别人看法的时候，

根本上是在担心不被理解。

所以当你在乎所有人的看法时，

本质上就是在期待所有人都非常理解你，

这是原本就是一个不可能实现的愿望。

你能做的是让愿意了解你的人更了解你，

而不愿了解或者没机会了解你的人，

他们的评价并没有那么重要。

When we care about the opinions of others,we are basically worried that we will not be understood. So when you care about everyone's opinion, it is essentially expecting everyone to understand you very well. This is a desire that is impossible. What you can do is to let people who are willing to know you know you better, who don't want to know or have a chance to know you. Their evaluation is not that important.