心理学上有一个词叫：梅拉宾法则（如何让别人尊重你）
你有没有发现，有时候无论你怎么解释，你的语言就是无法准确传达你的想法。
有时候在一些场合，有些人的表情和语调，比他们所说的话，更加能打动人心。
心理学中有一种梅拉宾法则现象，是由心理学家阿尔伯特·梅拉宾提出。
法则指出，在面对面的沟通中，语言本身只占到信息传递的7%，而音调和其他语音成分占到38%，身体语言则占到55%。
以下分享一个利用梅拉宾法则，如何让别人尊重你的小技巧。
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如果你平常在生活中，总是呈现一副笔直站立、昂首挺胸，甚至是气宇轩昂的样子，你的身体就会相应的分泌更多的血清素，这种血清素会让我们变得更坚定。
这时候，你在人际关系里，你的语言，你说话的力量，会让人有信任感，人们愿意倾听你，也更愿意相信你，尊重你。
相反，如果你垂头丧气，萎靡不振，这时候你的血清素会分泌不足，你会更容易感觉到焦虑和受挫。
当你呈现这种往内收缩的能量时，它就像在向外界发出一个信号：你是弱者。所以你也会吸引人们用一种负面方式来对待你。
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如果你用心观察生活，就会发现，这种人际关系互动的动力无处不在。
有一次，我开车到一个朋友的小区，在楼下等她下来一起去玩，车刚停好，门口的保安用一种不太友善的眼光盯着我，似乎想要把我赶走一样。
看到这个样子，我不由做了一个深呼吸，把车门打开，站起来看着他，然后昂首挺胸、大步流星地朝他走过去，边走边友善地挥挥手说：“嘿，师傅你好，我在这里等人，五分钟就走，请允许我等一下。”
他看着我，愣了一下，然后也友善地回答：哦，那好吧！说完然后忙他的事去了。
如果我当时躲躲闪闪，紧张胆怯，象做贼一样，那个保安会不会马上跑过来找我麻烦，或把我赶走呢？
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所以，我们每天可以对自己的身体做这种高能量的练习，因为你的身体语言正在表达你是谁。
当然，这样做的目的，不是让你目空一切盛气凌人，而是能够把你带到一种坚定而中正的能量场之中。
长此以往，我们与他人的关系，就经常能保持一种适当的界限，别人也会更加尊重你，愿意跟你交往了。
--English--
Title：There's a term in psychology called, Merabin's Law (how to get people to respect you)
Have you ever realized that sometimes no matter how much you explain, your words just don't convey exactly what you're thinking.
Sometimes there are occasions when some people's facial expressions and tone of voice strike a chord more than the words they say.
There is a phenomenon in psychology known as Merabin's Law, which was developed by psychologist Albert Merabin.
The law states that in face-to-face communication, words themselves account for only 7% of the message delivered, while intonation and other speech components account for 38% and body language accounts for 55%.
Here's a tip shared on how to get people to respect you using Merabin's Law.
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If you normally go through life always presenting an appearance of standing straight, with your head held high, or even with an air of dignity, your body will accordingly secrete more serotonin, a serotonin that makes us more determined.
This is when you are in relationships, your words, the power of your speech, will give people a sense of trust, and people will be willing to listen to you, and more willing to believe in you and respect you.
Conversely, if you are downcast and depressed, this is when your serotonin will be under-produced and you will be more likely to feel anxious and frustrated.
When you present this inwardly contracted energy, it's like a signal to the outside world that you are weak. So you also attract people to treat you in a negative way.
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If you look at life with care, you'll see that this dynamic of interpersonal interaction is everywhere.
Once, I drove to a friend's neighborhood and waited downstairs for her to come down to hang out with me. The car was just parked, and the security guard at the door stared at me with a not-so-friendly look, as if he wanted to drive me away.
Seeing this, I couldn't help but take a deep breath, opened the car door, stood up and looked at him, then walked towards him with my head held high and in stride, waving my hand in a friendly manner as I walked, saying, “Hey, how are you, master, I'm waiting for someone here, I'll be leaving in five minutes, so please allow me to wait a moment.”
He looked at me, froze for a moment, and then replied in a friendly manner as well, Oh, okay then! Said then went about his business.
If I had been evasive, nervous and timid, like a thief, would that security guard have come running right over to me or kicked me out?
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So, we can do this high-energy practice on our bodies every day, because your body language is expressing who you are.
The purpose of this, of course, is not to make you overbearing in your eyes, but to be able to bring you into a firm and neutral energy field.