Holiday Expectations Can Kill!

Anyone who loves in the expectation of being loved in return is wasting their time. – Paulo Coelho

Are you driving yourself crazy conducting your own “year-end performance review"? Feeling depressed about the gifts you can and cannot afford? Are you being attacked by the “holiday spirit”? Common symptoms include: feeling like shit, angry, and spinning out of control; and don’t seem to have time to do anything.

Is the thought of visiting your family back home stressing you out? Are you booking the flight last minute while figuring out the perfect amount of time to spend with them? Are you already obsessing about what you are doing for New Year Eve and who you are doing with? What does it mean for your relationship if the person you are dating didn’t invite you to his family function or didn’t seem interested in spending New Year Eve with you? Ach! Hence, hard and painful follow-up questions to think about. Wait, and 2018 New Year Resolution? What happened with the 2017 resolutions? “F*ck Me!” you think.

Stop. Stop. Take a deep breath. It is insane to define your self-worth and judge your relationships and your life with these two days out of 365 days!

So what if you don’t have the best gifts for the people you care, or that your bank account isn’t happily full? Or someone you date isn't doing what you want him/her to do?

Frist, you never have to go anywhere you feel uncomfortable or unsafe. If visiting your family during holiday makes you want to crawl out of your skin, then don’t go. Visit them another time. Yes, I just said that. That doesn’t mean you are a cold-hearted, ungrateful child, or a person who doesn’t care about family. Yes, your family might wail, guilt-trip, or even disown you.

But you got YOU! You don’t need to make yourself feel bad about this decision. And no one can make you feel bad unless you allow them to!

This can be the best Christmas ever for you!

Do something nice for yourself in this second. What would make you feel better NOW? Be the person who loves and care for you. What do you need to do to feel just slightly better?

Inhale and exhale deeply. Close your eyes and feel what is that you need to feel better in this moment. Then do it. Whatever it is.

It’s only 2 days, remember. So why give it so much power?

Today’s Affirmation: I love myself. I am my own advocate. I am worthy and I choose to be happy.

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