Intentional Intimacy: God and Marriage
What do these two scriptures mean to you? What do they have in common?
Both relate in regards to intimacy or the lack of.
Relationships are under attack. Godly relationship is under attack. Whether it'd be marriage, friendship or even our walk with Christ. Today's society is filled with new forms of distraction that can be to blame for our lack of intimacy with our spouses and with God. What you make time for is what's most important to you; that very thing strips you away from creating relationships and trust with those you hold dear. Let's look at these distractions and discover ways to avoid them.
- Social Media. DUH!! We all have it in some form or fashion. Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram, BLOGS (well, not mine, but you get it ). We are all consumed with unnecessary information. IT's filling our minds, changing our thoughts and creating havoc in our relationships. How many of us can admit to opening an app first thing in the morning or right before bed at night? I think we are all guilty. Even if it's for 10 minutes, that time could have been used wisely by conversing with our spouse, tidying the house or even reading the bible. What did we do before the break of social media? I do know we were more engaged in meaningful conversations with others. Oh to be simple again! Our phones and tablets are breaking us away from real interaction. Real intimacy.
- Busyness. Hustle season is among us. ALL. THE. TIME. We strive for the American Dream. We are hungry for success. We love the applause but we fail to see that at the end of the day, you're only human. We can't do it all no matter how hard we push ourselves. We are drained and have time for nothing more. Our lives are void of relationship. Okay, so what you say you're happily married. But did you ever consider your spouse? Did you ever consider your relationship with Christ? I can't speak for no one else but myself, but I am sure you can relate. Even though I'm home with my children, I can definitely lose track of time. I am busy teaching and developing my children throughout the day... giving them social freedom in the afternoon and by the end of the day, I'm too tired to spend time with my husband. It was a toll on our marriage.
Intimacy requires a conscious intention to make space in our busy lives for the experience. There is, after all, a finite amount of time in each day and intimate experiences do occur in time and space. Unless we recognize the importance of including intimacy in our lives, that is, seeing it as an essential ingredient in the establishment of a high sense of well-being, we will be unlikely to give it the value that it deserves.
If we try to wait for the time of intimacy to occur, we will be waiting for a long time. Intimacy must be initiated. It must be intentional. Intimacy must start with the decision to do. Relationships and intimacy are never one-sided. It benefits all involved and affects many. Adam knew his wife Eve. There's no knowing without relationship. Without knowing, you'll be unknown.
Spiritual intimacy is even more important. We must be active in our relationship with Christ. It would be a waste of a lifetime to walk this life thinking we're in a relationship when we're not. How embarrassing to claim someone openly to be denied? Spend time in His word and get at His feet. This is still a work in progress, yet, it still works. We must put the effort into building lasting relationships. Make time. Make room for God and for your relationship. There's favor in intimacy. There's covering provided for covenants. Choose yours wisely.
Posted from my blog at Burns Homestead : https://www.burnshomestead.com/2019/04/16/intentional-intimacy-god-and-marriage/