So the previous post, we looked at love, what it is and which hormones come into play when falling in love and loving someone. Here is the link if you missed it.
https://steemit.com/christian-trail/@hope777/love-and-marriage-159-what-is-love-part-1

Today we look at

True Love

Once you fall in love with someone, it's maybe just an infatuation. After the initial excitement is over one of two things can happen, you can either fall out of love or your love can grow into true love.

So what is true love?

It can be described as a permanent feeling of connection, attachment, happiness and satisfaction when you are with someone regardless of what happens. This definition goes far beyond what your body does and feels as we have seen in part 1. It is also to love each other with trust, support, respect and acceptance. True love put the other person's needs above your own and always striving to meet each other expectations.

If you are able to put your own ego aside, find value in someone else and forming a relationship where both parties give and receive, then you can develop true love which will result in forming a bond of love that cannot be broken.

So you fall in love but how will you know if it is true love?

Everyone wants to find True Love and be happy forever. Is this realistic and how can you know that what you feel is not just an infatuation, lust or even just wishful thinking?

* Nothing Is Hidden

If you are experiencing true love then you will find that you are not hiding anything from each other. You will openly share your life as that is part of being in a long-term loving relationship. You share the good and the bad withholding nothing.

There will be no playing games

If it is only a false admiration, lust or total selfishness then you will play games. If someone just feels they want to keep someone in their life for selfish reasons that person will play games in order to get what they want. There will be manipulation, for instance, a woman can pretend to be pregnant or a guy will threaten with suicide if you want to break it off. Someone like that is not experiencing true love as they are thinking more about what they want than the other person's happiness.

* There will be respect.

True love will give and receive respect. You will respect the person for who he/she is, what they are doing and how he/she act when with you. View the person as an equal and will see the good in him or she.

* You will deeply care about each other

Where there is true love, there is a deep care about each other's happiness and health. You won't do anything to hurt the other person's happiness. There will be no manipulation or physical or mental abuse. You won't let the other person feel bad about they do. You will support the person and make him/her feel good and encourage to do the things that make him/her feel happy and healthy. You will do things for that person to make them feel happy and healthy without the person have to ask for it.

* You won't concentrate on the person's flaws.

Nobody is perfect, so you will accept that. That means if the person is not so disciplined as you in keeping the room tidy, you will accept it. Some think true love is when you accept mental or physical abuse. That is not what accepting flaws is all about, it is just not concentrating on the little things that can irritate us so much.

* You will be kind to each other

When you truly love someone, you will be kind, friendly, considerate and generous. You will be patient and affectionate, don't use mean words or speak harshly. How you treat your partner compared to how you treat others is something to think about when you are considering if what you have is true love.

* You will be dedicated to improving your relationship

You will be dedicated to that person and be willing to compromise to better the relationship. You will be willing to put the relationship above other things and do everything in your ability to make it happier, healthier and more fulfilling for both parties. There will always be differences and issues in a relationship. People have emotions and it can interfere with your happiness. True love is willing to work through differences and arguments, you don't think about quitting. You think about making things better, working through the differences, the hurt and the anger so that you can get the relationship back on its happy track.

* You keep your promises to each other.

You always keep your promises to each other as they are an extension of the trust between you. When you can't keep a promise to someone you love, you will inform him/her about that instead of just ignoring it or saying nothing. Broken promises always lead to a break in trust and hurting the other person.

* You will see things from the other person's perspective.

If everything is about you, you will only able so see your own point. But when you truly love someone you will value that person enough to try to see something from their view. To try to place you into him/her situation in order to see and feel what him/her is feeling and seeing. You will understand where he/she is coming from, why do they need something in their life instead of judging because they need something different than you.

* You feel good when your partner is happy

If it is true love, what makes your partner happy, feeling joy, feeling appreciated or full of confidence makes you happy and makes you feel good. Even if you are not so happy in some circumstances. That is what true love is all about. There is no envy about having more luck, making more money or having more success than you. You value the person for who he or she is and accepting with joy what he or she brings into the relationship.

* You are committed to the end

No matter what happens, may it be bad health or financial difficulty, you are willing to stay committed. No matter what will come, you feel that your true love can overcome all. During tough times you will stay, support, encourage, find ways to help your partner. You will be there for each other no matter what life throws at you. That is true love!

NEXT POST: CAN I FIND OR EXPERIENCE TRUE LOVE?

Source: http://www.ilanelanzen.com/loveandrelationships/what-is-true-love-and-11-signs-that-you-have-found-it/
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Source: http://www.ilanelanzen.com/loveandrelationships/what-is-true-love-and-11-signs-that-you-have-found-it/
Images: freepik.com

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