Sex is a normal act between two adults, especially married couples. However, in our community we often see sex discussion as inappropriate.
Here are some of the burning (no pun intended) and most embarrassing sex questions most people are too afraid to ask, along with their answers.
- I noticed some bumps on my boyfriend’s joystick. Are they normal, or should I be worried?
Like women, men can develop fibrous lumps (excess tissue) down below. Bumps also can signal an allergic reaction, possibly to latex or the clothing detergent he uses. Either way, it’s a good idea to ask your man to talk to his doc about anything that may appear weird (lumps can be a sign of a sexually transmitted infection).
- I love having sex with my partner, but his joystick is very small. Does size matter?
Size shouldn’t matter. What counts is whether you’re satisfied with the sex you and your partner have. Many men make up for their size limitations by outperforming their larger-than-life peers in other erotic areas (pre-intimacy, MouthAction, etc.).
If your partner is concerned about the size of his joystick, be sure to stroke his sexual ego. Compliment him on the ways he performs, but remember not to over talk the issue. This could cause you to ramble or say something that could be inadvertently hurtful.
- I have no problem getting naturally lubricated for sex, but during it, I feel like my vagina “loosens.” Is there something I can do to make it feel tighter?
Like any other muscle in your body, your vagina needs exercise to stay “tight.” That’s especially true as we age. One of the best things you can do now are Kegel exercises. These little squeezes not only improve the strength of your vaginal walls, but they also strengthen your pelvic floor.
As a bonus, you’ll have stronger orgasms. So how do you do them? Sit down and squeeze your vaginal muscles – as though you’re holding in urine – and repeat the action several times over. Can’t be bothered to do that? Then use Ben Wa Balls. All you have to do is insert the balls and move around. They will do the rest of the work for you!
- “I sometimes feel like I’m about to pee while having sex. Is that possible?!”
Not really! It is possible to sometimes leak a bit of fluid if your bladder is extremely full, but this is more likely to happen when you have an orgasm, in the form of female ejaculation. So while you might often feel the urge to pee while having sex, that’s actually a good thing. It means that your center of gravity is being hit in the right way and you’re more likely to orgasm soon!