Why Men Cheat
Welcome to a tweet-cast on "Why Men Cheat" #SoulTies 8
- I want to state that we are not here to condemn anyone or stigmatise anyone who has repeatedly fallen into sin due to #SoulTies
- We are here to expose #SoulTies as the works of the enemy that the blood of Jesus has been shed to purge us from.
- We are also not here to provide excuses and reasons for Christians to continue in sin due to a misunderstanding of grace. #SoulTies
- The Bible states clearly in Romans 6:23 that "the wages of sin is death" #SoulTies is no excuse for us to continue in sin
- We are here to work out our salvation (that Jesus already paid with His blood) from #SoulTies according to God's word.
- In a few weeks from now our focus will shift to how we can practically work out our already purchased salvation from #SoulTies
- Today we are attempting to answer a question, in the context of #SoulTies, I got asked many times, which is why do married men cheat.
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- We start with the scriptures as is our usual practice by reading from Eph 2:3. #SoulTies
- Ephesians 2:3 Among whom also we all had our conversation in times past in the lusts of our flesh,..#SoulTies
- Conversation there means our behavioural patterns and habits. The scripture is saying there that we sharpened these skills.. #SoulTies
- .. With other children of disobedience when we were out there in the world or in Egypt aka when we were unbelievers. #SoulTies
- Most #SoulTies we practise today were developed & fine-tuned in our friendship circles. #SoulTies
- Hardly does satan come with new stuff to trip you but he uses the same old stuff over and over again to trip you. #SoulTies
- Now that you are saved and you have your ticket punched for heaven, satan's only access to you is through your #SoulTies.
- #SoulTies simply being habits he got you involved in the days of your flesh. Today, we are zeroing in on wrong sexual habits.
- specifically in the lives of men. They operate slightly differently with women so our guns today are trained on the men. #SoulTies
- I think I've mentioned before that many men process love through their organs and women process love through their hearts. #SoulTies
- It explains why David saw another man's wife from afar & his interpretation of love towards her was sleeping with her #SoulTies
- To conceal his activities with her, David went as far as killing her husband. After his death, the sex party continued. #SoulTies
- Many men who are married today are still carrying on his torch and we want to do some trace through to see what's going on. #SoulTies
- Boys that form sexual habits as they grow up without any godly restraint begin to move across various girls. #SoulTies
- As this happens, the key excitement in sexual activity for boys is the release and physical gratification they get from it. #SoulTies
- So fast forward to when they now want to marry either as saved or unsaved men, they have had a variety of memorable times. #SoulTies
- Sisters in church are then naive to think that if he is in church, then he must be free from such memories & #SoulTies
- Bear in mind that these activities were practised together with friends who are now split across d church and the world. #SoulTies
- Naively, sisters under estimate the power of old relationships over the men they are now dating or marrying. #SoulTies
- Let's paint a mock scenario here. Taju has been through having sex with 35 women before he gets saved and join d church. #SoulTies
- No one taught him how to renew his mind with God's Word and all he knew was to come along to church and serve tables. #SoulTies
- He still has a plethora of friends continuing with such girls. Now he meets sister in church, Tanya, who loves The Lord. #SoulTies
- Tanya is a virgin and never had a boyfriend until she met Taju. Taju didn't disclose all these while they were dating. #SoulTies
- Let's throw in a Nigerian spin to this mock scenario. Taju's family is delighted to hear Tanya is a virgin. #SoulTies
- Taju's family is pleased with his catch being aware that he was once a player.They like that he's marrying a "clean" woman. #SoulTies
- I have read a tweet where a dude said he would blow the whistle if his friend was to marry a lady who has aborted before. #SoulTies
- So the pressure is on the woman who wants to marry to stay "clean" while it's ok for d man to swim around town as he likes. #SoulTies
- I have described in tweet 39, amidst of the Nigeria society. Describing it doesn't mean I endorse it. I don't endorse it. #SoulTies
- Now Taju & Tanya are married. 6 months later, Taju is out there reaching out to one or two old girlfriends on Facebook. #SoulTies
- Facebook is almost a curse when it comes to #SoulTies. Experts advise you refrain from contacting old flames on Facebook. #SoulTies
- Researchers reckon almost 62% of those who got in touch with an old flame eventually got in bed with them. #SoulTies
- Researchers suggest that if you are not single, widowed or divorced, u should refrain from contacting old flames on FB. #SoulTies
- Back to Taju, why does he start contacting old flames on Facebook? He has had 6 months of staying with one woman! #SoulTies
- 6 months is the longest he has ever stayed copulating with d same woman, which is his wife.Others never lasted half as long.#SoulTies
- He gets bored. His #SoulTies are still active underneath, he remembers the assorted times from more experienced girlfriends.#SoulTies
- It's not enough for the woman to be right, we also need to ensure that the man is rid of #SoulTies for d marriage to work & survive.
- Taju is back with 2 of his old flames secretly to reproduce his past assorted sexual experiences with them. #SoulTies
- It matters where d guy has been before you met him else these things will pop to the surface months after you are married. #SoulTies
- Sex is the most addictive soul tie in the world today. It's far more addictive than drugs. #SoulTies
- A man who has not been purged of the sexual #SoulTies with d Word of God only needs an enabling situation to break his vows. #SoulTies
- Let me tell you this real life story to drive home my point. Many years ago in Nigeria, I needed a lift from work. #SoulTies
- I worked with KPMG then. I got lumbered with 4 married guys in the car. I knew all of them but we were never close. #SoulTies
- knew one of them to be a Christian who attended a monthly revival meeting of a large Nigerian denomination. Others weren't. #SoulTies
- 1 unwritten code we have as men is that we don't snitch. So these guys had no problem starting this conversation in d car. #SoulTies
- One of them had just been married recently and a conversation started when his mates asked when he was coming out to 'town'. #SoulTies
- He told them that he was coming out to 'town' soon.Then his mates started marketing their escapades outside marriage to him.#SoulTies
- The Christian guy was one of the marketers. This conversation had gone on for like 15mins and I became very curious.#SoulTies
- I definitely had to join this conversation as we had at least one more hour of travel.I too had just been married.#SoulTies
- So I decided to pop this question when there was a pause in the conversation. #SoulTies read question in next tweet.
- Guys, if u are now married to a wife, why don't you do all these crazy stuff with her alone and be free of guilt and STD? #SoulTies
- U will find their answers ridiculous but an ignorance of these answers for a naive sister can sink your marriage dreams. #SoulTies
- Answer 1-> one of them said "we do rough sex only with outside girls, wives are to treated with respect, not roughly." #SoulTies
- Let's break answer down over a few tweets. 1st, there is suggestion of a dual life of decent sex at home & rough sex outside.#SoulTies
- None of them disclosed their dual operations to their wives but implicitly assumed dat their wives shouldn't be part of it. #SoulTies
- 2nd analysis was that girls out there who hang out with married men are only being used as tools of sexual gratification. #SoulTies
- If you are a girl doing a married man, this is what he thinks of you. You are only good enough for rough sex. No more. #SoulTies
- 3rd analysis was that 1 wife was unable to provide these colourful experiences provided by a wide range of women out there. #SoulTies
- From that one answer, there was absolutely no way their wives could compete on that turf with the outside girls. #SoulTies
- There is something about a man married to a woman that is untouched by no-one else so they'll pretend in church to get u. #SoulTies
- Let me go slightly more explicit here. Over the last few years, some new bedroom styles have been floating around. #SoulTies
- Honestly, these can be very uncomfortable for those who were never sexually active before marriage. A challenge here. #SoulTies
- This provides the wrong inner justification for these men with unbridled appetites to carry on with their atrocities. #SoulTies
- Addiction to assorted past sexual experiences is number one reason why men cheat. #SoulTies
- A challenge is that these r never disclosed to the unsuspecting sister being pressured by her parents to marry in a hurry. #SoulTies
- How do we deal with that answer for intending couples? I'll share my two cents here. #SoulTies
- Once courtship starts, I think there should be a discussion of these matters where both man & woman align their desires. #SoulTies
- If you only just discovered after you married, then my recommended option for you is prayer & fasting to crush the #SoulTies
- Answer 2 from these guys. They said there was a thrill in slipping out to be with these other women that's addictive. #SoulTies
- We can decode that with 2 scriptures in proverbs. #SoulTies
- Pro 20:17 Bread of deceit is sweet to a man;but afterwards his mouth shall be filled with grave. #SoulTies
- Proverbs 9:17 Stolen waters are sweet,and bread eaten in secret is pleasant.#SoulTies
- Proverbs 9:18 But he knoweth not that the dead are there;and that her guests are in the depths of hell.#SoulTies
- A lady once tweeted that forbidden love was the sweetest. I don't know where to start. #SoulTies
- Please note that these guys only used d girls as tools & they had no romantic link or they faked romantic links with them.#SoulTies
- Next reason why men cheat is access to or desire to be romantically back with their ex-girlfriends aka old flames. #SoulTies
- Please note that both non church men as well as church men with #SoulTies are affected by this. You'll be shocked.
- A woman married to a clergyman kept being buffeted by her ex-boyfriend who was having a problem in his marriage. #SoulTies
- She had to scream for help through a Christian talk show cos she couldn't carry it to church.Their meeting point was FB. #SoulTies
- Single sisters, when a man has problems with his marriage & u give him your shoulder to cry on,won't stop there till oops! #SoulTies
- Single sisters, you are not marriage counsellors. If he has problems, let him go see the trained counsellors. #SoulTies
- This one is subtle and deceptive cos it never starts as an affair. It starts just as long telephone gists. #SoulTies
- Telephone gists can only be done when wife and kids are all gone to bed. Next, your phone travels around in your pocket. #SoulTies
- Next, you password your phone and not even your wife and kids can open it cos the phone is very "hot". #SoulTies
- Next, the gists can no longer convey the intensity of the bond so physically contact is arranged and oops. #SoulTies
- Problems at home open the door for this kind of liaisons.Brash lady used to annoy her husband there were lots of fights. #SoulTies
- Next, she complains that her husband uses d loo every night for over an hour talking to some woman outside the marriage. #SoulTies
- Issues should be addressed, confronted and resolved in marriage else leaks like these happen that can let enemy in. #SoulTies
- No matter how old fashioned u want to remain, u can't ignore the effects of e-flirting, e-romance, e-cheating, e-sex etc #SoulTies
- Y'all ain't seen nothing yet. There's even e-wanking. Man & woman link up on Skype. Then they are wanking while chatting. #SoulTies
- Pretty much anything u can do in real life, just prefix it with an "e-" and u are good to go. Bible already knew about this. #SoulTies
- Anything the mind can visualise & enjoy the thoughts of, it's as though u are physically experiencing the reality of it. #SoulTies
- Many Nigerian men seek e-experiences with ex-lovers or new acquaintances for emotional fulfilment #SoulTies
- I hope y'all know that u can forge full #SoulTies with another person through an e-experience without having met each other before.
- Many Nigerian marriages are at risk of e-cheating because men can do quite a lot now with their smartphones.. #SoulTies
- Today's Nigerian man is far more sophisticated than our dads and grandpas. The culture is evolving somehow. #SoulTies
- With Nigeria now fully embedded in the online community, men have access to the entire cyberspace to meet new people.. #SoulTies
- In the e-world, selection pool is not restricted by geography. You can be in Abuja catching feelings with a lady in Enugu. #SoulTies
- A man in Texas could be e-wanking with an ex-lover in Port-Harcourt. #SoulTies
- Twitter, FaceBook, BBM, WhatsApp have opened limitless access to a plethora of e-relationship options across the globe. #SoulTies
- With a cheap BB device in Nigeria, you can be up and running in an e-relationship or e-fling in less than 24 hours. #SoulTies
- It's now so easy for married men in Nigeria to start illicit e-relationships that will culminate into full blown affairs. #SoulTies
- Sadly, many of these e-flings would culminate into full blown and real-life experiences, if not nipped in the bud. #SoulTies
- We heard lately of a FaceBook e-relationship with a married man in Nigeria that resulted in a fatality. #SoulTies
- I have stated the latest trends in those tweets but this shouldn't be construed by conservatives as an endorsement from me. #SoulTies
- And before the men think I've hit them too hard, for every e-relationship u have, there is a willing e-SideChick out there. #SoulTies
- Another reason men cheat is food! Food! Africans say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. #SoulTies
- Haven't you noticed in Nollywood films that mistresses and concubines out there are great cooks. #SoulTies
- No one knows Samuel as well as Mama Samuel. U want to marry Samuel? Please make friends with Mama Samuel & ask questions. #SoulTies
- Ask Mama Samuel how Samuel loves his food cooked. Be humble to learn how cos that may be your lifeline in 5 years time. #SoulTies
- When I was a young boy, I saw women lose their husbands attention to better cooks on the streets. #SoulTies
- Now the woman out there is not cooking for charity, she's doing it get the whole of the man to herself. #SoulTies
- We heard stories of women adding supplements to food in a bid to turn the hearts of the men they wanted to entice. #SoulTies
- If ur husband is a man given to food, u have a challenge cos he could be spotted by better cooks out there for enticement.#SoulTies
- We spotted 3 reasons why men cheat tonight.Sex, Emotional ties with past lovers, food. Sex being the most powerful one.#SoulTies
- Married men have been known to have gone into their house maids,secretaries etc.There are 2 other reasons I want to add. #SoulTies
- Reason 4:I think some men are plain demonic as their actions in this area defy logic.Like raping house maid,step daughters #SoulTies
- It's demonic and only spiritual discernment can make you avoid such men. U are better off never to have met such men. #SoulTies.
- If you are unfortunately married to one, seek spiritual advice ASAP. #SoulTies
- Some may require law enforcement agents being informed as a mandatory obligation. #SoulTies
- Reason 5, is if as a married woman you are not in the centre of his passion. U need to pay attention here. #SoulTies
- Church people can be badly exposed here and I'll explain. #SoulTies
- Quick scenario. Taju owns & runs a fast growing company called Taj Holdings.Tanya doesn't need to work as they r very comfy.#SoulTies
- Tanya's passion is now holidays, shoes and jewellery. But Taju's passion is all about growing this company. #SoulTies
- Ladies, a man's main passion is most of the time not you but his work. He pours himself into his work to provide for you. #SoulTies
- He sees clearly that Tanya's passion is to spend the money. Taju has no problem with that cos there's excess money. #SoulTies
- Problem is that Taju has a female PA who knows 100% about Taj Holdings while Tanya only knows about the chequebook. #SoulTies
- Taju works 16hrs daily with the PA while Tanya is busy driving around with her prodigal friends in the family RangeRover. #SoulTies
- Though Taju is a decent guy married to Tanya, Tanya is not located in the centre of Taju's passion->growing Taj Holdings. #SoulTies
- PA called Genevieve works very hard for 16 hours daily away from her family. One day Genevieve comes crying to work. #SoulTies
- She says that school fees for kids are short. Taju makes up the difference cos he doesn't want her distracted from work. #SoulTies
- Next, she says her husband is uncaring, Taju comforts her. Gradually a bond is growing as they watch each other's back. #SoulTies
- Genevieve works harder to repay Taju's loyalty while Tanya is home booking holidays. Over a period of 2 years,#SoulTies are formed
- A pact of secrecy is developed and Genevieve becomes the most powerful person in that organisation. #SoulTies
- This opens the door for deeper intimacy which never started as such. Many CEO's are known to have had affairs with PAs. #SoulTies
- Affairs happen between bosses and PA's cos they spend far too much time together running the company. #SoulTies
- Ladies, if any woman spends more time than you in the centre of your husband's passion you are at risk of losing him. #SoulTies
- Close, Prolonged, intensive and continual contact with female PA can birth #SoulTies capable of drawing both into sex. #SoulTies
- Reason 6, Men also cheat when there is a problem with their wives having children. This happens a lot more in Africa. #SoulTies
- In Africa, men are under pressure from their families to produce kids in their marriage after a certain time. #SoulTies
- If kids don't show up in an African marriage after 2 years, family members begin to hit the panic button. #SoulTies
- I have seen many families in Nigeria where such men resorted to making babies with external Delilah's. #SoulTies
- There are cases of women who turned up with kids at mens funerals in Africa saying they had the kids for them. #SoulTies
- If the men in question are not born again Christians whose hearts are circumcised by the Word, they are fallible to this. #SoulTies
- I have seen some families split up in Nigeria because the wife had no male child in 4 and the man started trying outside. #SoulTies
- Technically, that is cheating. Every man should stand with his wife and believe God supernaturally for a child. #SoulTies
- If having kids is no longer possible, then couples want to explore possibilities of adoption. Your choice though. #SoulTies
- So we got 6 reasons today amongst others why married men cheat. #SoulTies
- Please note that these are not being postulated as valid excuses for men to cheat. The standards of God are very clear. #SoulTies
- God hates fornication and adultery. The blame for adultery or fornication is shared 50-50 between both participants. #SoulTies
- We dug these out so our sisters can be street wise and be spiritually discerning as they choose who to marry & how to live. #SoulTies
- Been a long session. Please read & retweet to all your followers. Please leave comments & questions on http://www.BreakingSoulTies.com #SoulTies
- Remain blessed. See you again soon. #SoulTies Jesus is Lord!!