Breakups have to get easier, right? .... Can they please?!

Am I supposed to feel free? Though this beautiful bird of paradise that has been hanging around the pond lately looks lovely, I prefer to be in a relationship and have a partner to fly with!

I just read an older post here on steemit about getting through breakups. I'm new here, and I think it was too old to resteem. But I really enjoyed the post and am going to re read it and follow some of the tips, seeing how I've had a break up a couple of weeks ago. And well yes, I'm sad and not finding it so easy! No surprise...

But, I write here tonight to just ask you, aren't they supposed to get easier as you get older? I'm almost 60. First off, I don't want to be broken up with any more! Not kidding. I've decided I have to find the permanent guy this time. I mean if there is a this time!!

This is short and sweet, but I think one thing that will help me in the next relationship, is to be less passive. I let many things pass by, words I may have questioned, or feelings that I wasn't sure of... and the list goes on. I've been doing this all my life. Not shy, not quiet, but let things go by kind of person. And I end up getting hurt.

So can breakups get easier? Maybe not but I am looking to not have anymore! Feeling good about myself and figuring out what to do to decide if the person is right for you (and you for them) is part of the process. I am easy going and leave a lot of that out!

I will see if I can figure out how to resteem that post I was mentioning was helping me. But you can search breakups and there are a lot of posts out there! I'm going to read more myself.

If you have had a breakup, remember, you are not alone. There is life after breakups. Hang in there and do what you can to stop the breakups and stay-together more! Because they don't seem to get easier :(

In the meantime, for me, I'm shopping. Retail therapy rules!