WHY I JUST DON'T DO IT?
Concerned about the question of how to find your own goals - how to find out what you really want.
Some people do not have a problem with that. In fact, they know very well what they want to achieve, what they want and what their goals are. The challenge for these people is much more in actively addressing their goals.
Does this sound familiar to you? Do you already have quite specific pictures of yourself in mind, what else do you want to do? But you can not manage to start implementing it?
If so, you are not alone. What is more, I believe that it is a fairly large number of people who have ambitions, but who fail to achieve those goals. If you belong to it then you will Whenever you want to get started suddenly tired or you are paralyzed. You may suddenly doubt whether the goal is really the right one. Or you realize that today is not the right day, because after a visit comes and then you might have to stop in the middle. And then there is also the new project on the work, then there would be no time for other anyway ...
In short, you will always find new reasons why this is not the time to start right now. And that can be very frustrating.
I think it's worth taking a closer look at the possible reasons why we do not approach our goal, because that can give us new options for action.
The reasons for delaying our goals can be manifold:
Instinctively, we suspect that achieving goals involves work and effort. And we shy away from that.
Targets can also have other prizes: maybe we need to move in space, maybe we have to give up something that is important to us, maybe we do something that people who are close to us do not understand or like?
There are often doubts about our goals: is the achievement of the goal really as beautiful as we dream it or is it perhaps better to protect ourselves from disappointment?
Another factor is fear: will we succeed or fail? How do we stand before others? Are we going to make a fool of ourselves by trying to do something we can not do yet? Are we even able to start something new or is it better to stick to what we can?
Take a look inside and research your own personal reasons. Ask yourself, what could be behind the fact that you are preventing yourself from really addressing your goals? Try to understand why you are discouraging change yourself.
In this way you can get to know yourself a good deal better. If you understand your motives and your behavior better, you can be more forgiving and loving with yourself and understanding. This, in turn, reduces the frustrations often associated with deferred goals.
And if you know why you are not implementing a goal, you win another option: You can then also decide much more consciously against the target. Sometimes that's just what it takes to clear your head. Maybe now is not really the time to start the novel, maybe it's not yet time to start your own business and maybe the plan to emigrate to Africa, but a number is too big.
Doubt about our goals is not bad - bad is only when they seem unconscious. Then they stop us from realizing our goals and in the end we consider ourselves as losers.
But when we understand our concerns, we can work with them - invalidate them or follow them. And so we switch back to the active side.
Now this is just all i need. Most time we know what to do but just don't have the courage to do them.
Thanks bro you just touched a soul with your words.
My pleasure!
Hello fret! This is a very good read once again. All you said was on point does make sense.
As for me, it's my fear. I might make the wrong decision and I won't be able to go back to what I'm used to doing. I know that I need to do something about it but it's just too hard. :)
I'll be stronger and braver one day. :)
Well said, thank you! upvoted
your are not alone ? when you will be in trouble you gonna realize there is noone to help and in that moment you realize that you are alone in this entire world.
how to find own goals ??
Well, I guess this is hard question to answer, everyone has their own way of living. Even twins has various life goals.
Anyway I have to mention that, You are unique in your way, everyone unique in their own way. no one can do the same thing you can !!!
Thanks you anyway, you wrote it based on yourself
You have a point, thank you!
As long as people donot have an experience they dont understand what we are talking about.
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