Great post. Here is my opinion on the issue. Everyone is born with some privileges and some defects. You can only see one thing at a time. So If you keep looking at your own privileges you are a grateful person. If you keep looking at your own defects you are a depressing person, If you keep looking at others privileges you are a jealous person. If you keep looking at others defects, you are a empathic person. Balance is the key word.
I definitely agree. Balance is key. Too much emphasis one way leads to problems, while too much emphasis the other way also leads to problems.