The First Time I Took A Break From Steemit, It Was Apathy. The Second--Cancer.steemCreated with Sketch.

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It is amazing how much one diagnosis can change your perspective on life.

I am from the generation that never saw anyone having to take a smoke break outside. Sadly, my Father is not from that generation.

Last month, I found out that after almost fifty years of my father smoking, he was diagnosed with stage 3 small cell lung cancer. Everyone saw the warning signs coming, except for my Dad.

He would always say "My Grandfather smoked until he was 101...and he was perfectly healthy!". And, maybe that was true for him. But for my Dad, genetics have not worked out the same. And as a result, my entire world has been rocked.

In retrospect, my halfhearted attempts to get him to stop should have been wholehearted.

In some regards, I guess we all just want the people close to us to be happy. Which is why I cannot be really that upset that this all happened.

I guess...I just wish I could have been a better influence. I've not posted here for a while because I've thought that nothing I could have said was as authentic as the wishes I had that my Dad never ended up this way. I am slowly realizing that I never could have had control of that, and all I can do at this point is just provide all the support I can as a caring son in this situation.

Thank you Steemit for hearing me out in this situation.

I just do not know the right words to say, but I know your support will in part help get me through this.

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I'm so sorry to hear about your father's diagnosis. It's understandable you regret not being more forceful in encouraging him to quit smoking, but at the same time this was probably outside the realm of your control given his lifelong habit.

My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer a few months ago—fortunately at an early stage—so I can relate in some capacity to how devastating a serious family illness can be.

Words fall short here, but I truly hope that you, your father and family will navigate this period with as much love, affection and comfort as possible.

Thank you for your kind words!

very good post

As you said, its not fair to beat yourself up in hindsight over things you should or shouldn't have done.

He's your dad, just support and be there for him. As I said before, there are effective treatments and he has a good chance of beating this demon. At the same time, I realize how gutted you must feel about it.

Keep on doing what you do, be that rock that you need to be for your father.

Best wishes to you both.

Very sad news. Hang in there man. It will be a rough ride ahead.

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this post is very beautiful . i like it sir . sir you can help me sir please . your groups add me please . i work the groups . i am helpless . please add me . https://steemit./@maksudarrahman

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Any updates dude? I hope he's on the mend.

also wondering. praying for your dad

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