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RE: My Life's Journey - Where the heck have I been? Part 2 -Lesson 1 - Being "STRONG".
I can relate to what you are saying as I did similar when we lost our Son many years ago just as he was born, I put on a mask of strength to support those around me and bottled up my emotions, it took me a long time to release my emotions and was such a struggle in so many ways for me at the time, but i had this stupid feeling that I had to be strong.
Glad you are able to express your feelings in this post and hoping you find you way back to being strong emotionally as well as physically
I am sorry to hear about you losing your son, my friend. I can't imagine how it felt. And, I know you felt like you needed to be strong for everybody, but in my personal opinion, we both bottled up emotions inside which later created many problems for us. Maybe instead of trying to STANDING alone STRONG, we should be more STANDING STRONG TOGETHER.
Sharing our emotions, our sorrow, pain, fear with the people around us. Yes, we should be strong when it matters, but we also need to find a way to release our emotions. Because for me, keeping them all inside, created a great number of problems a month or two after it all happened. I got to a point I could not recognize myself as a person. Only when I started to let myself be "weak" is when things started to get back to normal. When I opened up to all those emotions. When I faced them... It is, in my opinion, the only way to do it.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me, brother. I appreciate it. Have a blessed day.
Standing Strong together is the way to go for sure, And I agre ethere is times we need to stand strong but i think its essential to have someone or some people around who you can truly express your feelings with and not let them bottle up inside us. And yes I can relate to what you are saying a bout letting. Yourself be weak, I went through the same understanding and now I do not think of it as being weak, I see it as needing a support network to help me deal witht he pain I had bottled up inside me, wearing the mask of strength at the time did help those around me and they needed that, but the long time effect was for a few years I became a person that looking back i didnt like, becaus eI realize now I had locked up the emotions of the loss but so many others and I had become a shell of what I could have been.
Luckily i meet my Current Wife quite a few years later when I was starting to let down the walls and she gave me the strength to shatter them all and I am in a far better state now and so much happier with who and what I am
And no thanks needed thanks to you for this post which inspired me to share my feelings
YOu to have a blessed day
Like I wrote in my posts. It is all about making that DECISION to start working on whatever is bothering you. It has to come from deep. On your way to recovery, the UNIVERSE will send you as I call them PEOPLE-ANGELS to help you get through it. Just like your wife came to yours when you needed her the most. Just like it happened many times to me as well.
But first, as you did, we have to make the DECISION to fight for ourselves. It starts from ourselves first. :)
Appreciate you sharing, brother. :)
Yes I do believe that as well call it Fate or Whatever it does happen and often just when you are ready or in need of it most