RE: The Pivot of My Life - I Am Wondering What That Could Be
Perhaps everyone has the same pivot - society. If we were able to live alone (we can't, at least for our early lives), then we wouldn't have to deal with the pressures of society. The odds are always against us because we are one and society is many. Society tries to pull us in many different directions and most lead to a downward spiral.
The things you surmise might have caused issues with your friend, childhood trauma, failed tests, drugs - all seem to be things society presented to her.
Before modern times, we all lived in small tribes. Everyone knew everyone and were related to many. Everyone was needed to make the tribe function. When an issue arose, it was in the best interest of the tribe and everyone in it to resolve the issue. Our pivot back then was more environmental - you might eat the wrong thing or get eaten or suffer at the hands of the elements. We've eliminated much of our tribal risks in much of the world today but society has grown to the point where we're faced with many more complex social interactions with people we don't know well and who do not have our best interests in mind.
Well that's my random unorganized thoughts inspired by your excellent post! Keep steeming and enjoy the ride here! :)
Thanks for your reply, I do tend to agree with you. Today we can simply make too many mistakes without consequences which is why probably we don't get told anymore at an early stage that there is something wrong, there is too much grey area. In the past, as you correctly write, flaws and disfunctionalities could turn into an imminent danger which is why personal issues were tackled much earlier by the tribe.
Thinking about it, I think will have a chat with my friend. Thanks for giving me the confidence to do so.
I will :-)