Considering giving marriage another slot.....?

imlim (-1)(1)in #blog • 6 years ago

Before decided to marry again, are you ready to experience again the moment of living again with someone?

First, you must review the performance you made in your first marriage. You will ask yourself, how could I be a better spouse? How come our union ended in divorce? What really went wrong? What weaknesses do I still need to work on? There are many unsolved questions in your first marriage. So you must find out the answer first all endless questions before thinking to marry again.

Second, know what you're really looking for in a partner. Be sure of the character traits you want. Don't commit yourself to settle down just because you're lonely and in need of a companion. Finally, let time answer your questions. Enjoy your freedom, at least for a moment and give yourself much time in finding your potential mate before you say I do again.

Entering another chapter in your life, a second marriage is a very challenging obligation for you. Many things will about to change your everyday life when you finally decided in remarrying again. Freedom of you will be lost again. You must be well prepared for the new responsibility you will take and how you take it.

For marrying the second time around, there are lots of things to consider for making it a successful one. There are many things you need to understand in order to avoid again differences to your new spouse. These are the following:

EXPECTATIONS

At the beginning of the second marriage, problems will not occur instantly. As to a new couple, you are savoring your new found love. However, too many expectations may arise when one is too demanding to the other. This can be solved if you can tell your partner what your limitations are and what you can only do.

REALISTIC APPROACH OF LOVE

This can be the best thing ever happened to the second marriage. Love must blossom unconditionally with respect. Give and take-this is for the equal releasing of feelings.

POSITIVE ATTITUDE AND OUTLOOK IN LIFE

It may not be perfect at all, but happy in what you have. Do not force yourself into giving just to ensure the happiness for your spouse. You must contend with the abilities and capabilities of your partner. Encourage your partner in giving his/her best in any other way.

COMMUNICATING

You must be open to what you really feel. Have the time to talk. This can help in keeping the flame alive. Listen to your partner. In listening to you get what he/she wants to relate.

UNDERSTANDING AND ACCEPTING

You may not be able to do everything, it doesn't cost you to any problem. Understanding and accepting are part of marriage. Humans are not perfect, so they intend to make wrong actions. You must respect the little things he/she made.

MAKING DECISIONS AND SETTLING ARGUMENTS

These kinds of situations are very crucial. It can make or break. In making decisions you must tell what you're thinking. Possibly, accept your partner's opinion. Settle your arguments in due time. Arguments are really minded busters. This may create gaps in the relationship.

COMMON SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION AND GOAL

It may be good if both of you believe in the same religious doctrine. It can avoid debates on what are the right beliefs. A dream of a perfect family is one common goal. This can be done if both are working together cooperative and serious. It can be a good foundation in the years to come. This can be the guiding force in making a successful relationship.

COMBINING A FAMILY

What if your new spouse has a child or children in his/her previous marriage? You must know at least step-parenting skills. You are dealing emotions of their new environment. Be a good at them as they are also important to your spouse's life. Accept them as you accepted your partner. Make them also one of your main priorities.

In committing your life again to someone, make it sure that you are really serious and prepared. Sacrifice and true love must be your agenda. So to speak, may your second marriage be a successful and fruitful one.