3 Mistakes That Kill Your Charisma

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Hello there! How are you today?

Today I have a small post because I have some homework to do... 

In one of my last posts, I share with you some tips to "Start A Conversation With Anyone". So I was thinking maybe people have interesting knowing 2 or 3 big mistakes that can kill charisma. 

So let's start!

1.Not Proactively Introducing Yourself


Many people feel very uncomfortable when they enter into a new group or go to the party. For that reason, they don't say anything and just often offer a small hand wave and stand there quietly like a table.

Try to do something different than that. You don't need to yell your name at everyone. 

So the next time that you find yourself entering or being pulled into a small group, make sure to make eye contact and introduce yourself to some people with a handshake or just a strong hand wave.

If the people are involved in the conversation, you can say, "Hello, don't mean to interrupt but just wanted to introduce myself".

And please! If you are doing this with someone else, doesn't introduce just yourself like: My name is: blah blah blah and let the other person alone. A simple: Hey, this is my friend Peter. It's enough. I'm sure this will making everyone else more comfortable. 

2.Not soliciting feedback

One of the biggest problem that we, human beings have.

When we love something we usually talk a lot about it. Sometimes we can be annoying. To avoid this you might want to try pausing mid-story to ask the other person a question just to see if they ask you how that story ended or to find out that they were tuning you out the whole time.

3.Answering questions with single works

Very common to happen this one.

If you find yourself consistently experiencing awkward silences, 

chances are that you're putting yourself in those situations using short answers. For example:

Bad one

Person 1: Where are you from?

Person 2: Portugal.

Good one

Person 1: Where are you from?

Person 2: I'm from Portugal. You know, Fado, good food. Do you like Fado?


See? What can do the Person 1 in the "Bad One" scenario? Notting... The 2º person doesn't help very much...

On another hand, the "Good One" are a perfect example who want talk and have a lot of "Charisma".

Conclusion

If you go to a party and don't know anyone, don't be shy and say: Hello, People! Do it strongly! After the first introduction and some words, request feedback to know if what you are talking is interesting to the people. If you find that what you are saying is not interesting just make questions. Ask what they like, what they do and don't answer back using single works.


It's all for today! Hope you enjoy. Let me know if you know other tips and,

See you later!

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Nice job, ddua. Some good tips there. I especially agree with the good eye contact and asking the other people questions. Apparently, everyone's favourite subject is themself :D

I can remember feeling awkward in new situations when I was younger.

Cheers
Anj x

Hollys here! You are the one! :)
Thanks for your feedback. I really appreciated.

Yes it is. The funny thing is: if we do too many questions about the person she will reject us eheh

I tried eheh

yes... too many questions can feel like an interrogation lol. Best to keep it open and natural. If they don't wanna open up, try another person.

cheers
Anj x

Yahp! It's this.

'Honing my Personality' :D

It is good to consciously practice things that we may do instinctively, because sometimes we forget or are left out of our element in some cases. Great Post, Doo-WAH! @originalworks cuz sometimes it takes '3rd party triggering' :D

Thanks for your feedback @underground!

It's true. Sometimes we forget about the simple things.
I hope this helps you in your "Honing your Personality" demand eheh

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Thanks for resteemed my post!

Good post! Some great reminders...

Thanks man.
What is your favorite? 😃

No. #2

Some people really need to know when to stop barfing!

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