CHURCH GAL SPEAKS #2: LOVE OR COMPLIANCE

LOVE OR COMPLIANCE?

Valentine’s Day is coming. Girls are being pressured to have someone special and boys are getting anxious with the demands of their significant others.

This post is specifically for all the single ladies of all ages out there, pressured and stressed with the current season this month.

Let me put out a question, is it really love or are you just complying to society’s standards, that makes you crave and demand love & attention from a man?

Society made us think that if we don’t receive anything or if we don’t have a date, or have been asked out by a dude then we’re the “Rejects”.

Society raised a generation of brainwashed peepz through social media with unrealistic romantic fantasies.

Women as we are, we tend to demand and feel secure. I can say this because I am guilty of doing this before and the relationship ended up in a huge pile of rubble. Oops!

Sometimes, we tend to demand and rush Love.

Love is simple. Don’t complicate it. Just wait and be pretty, not petty.

We have the tendency to be a bunch of control freaks and write our own love story, we tend to take the pen from the author when we should have been just the characters flowing to the rhythm of God’s perfect timing and plan for our lives. Have you ever read a book wherein the characters took over their own story? NO. Cause if you did, then it would be predictable and would have probably been a major disaster. The author knows what’s best for it’s character. Let Go and Let God. Stop being the author of your life, God’s got your back. Trust in the one who created you. Stop overthinking stuff and just flow to HIS (God) rhythm. God’s love story for your life is way better than what you’re meditating in your head to materialize into reality.

God writes the best love story, just like Ruth and Boaz’s love story. But to be honest, I love Queen Esther and King Xerxes love story the most.

So, let’s go back to the topic with “Love or Compliance”.

I thought of this one last night before I went to bed… I tend to think about important stuff before I catch the train to dreamland. And thank God I haven’t forgotten about it. This article was inspired by life events that happened to me and to some people I know. People that manipulated Love and ended up being lead by false hopes and getting their hearts broken on their own accords.

For example, a woman asked my friend to ask this guy to send her something and a letter. My friend was used as a bridge and the guy got shocked with this demand cause he only sees the girl who demanded such things as a good friend cause she is so not on his league, but this woman really like the dude. This dude just got her something the first thing he saw in his office and wrote the girl half of a post it note. 

The situation above wasn’t really out of love, it was rather more of like an act of compliance. The situation was a trap from the woman to manipulate the situation and to feed her assumptions with false hopes. No matter how many traps you set up to catch the guy, if he doesn’t really like you, in the end, you’ll get caught in your own trap if you always try to manipulate the situation.

First of all, you did not have to set up those traps to get him when he really do like you. All you have to do was sit pretty and be the Proverbs31 woman you should be, and the right man will be attracted to you; Better than the man you’re trynna ensnare. Don’t end up being a psycho for Love. BE THE BEST, NOT THE BEAST.

Good things come to those who wait. Wait for the best. As it is said in 1Corinthians, “Love is patient”. So be patient. Sometimes we just love the thought of falling in love rather than being in love at all.

What is rushed will be temporary, what is waited and prayed for will last a lifetime.

Girl, you deserve something real… You don’t deserve something that was just given out of compliance, a guy that really likes you will make his feelings known to you without fear but with full on courage & love.

He will always take the initiative to make you feel loved and feel like you’re the only girl in the world. He will bury down your insecurities with his constant attention and unconditional love.

Someday, you’ll meet a guy that will cross an ocean for you. So, forget about that current guy you’re trynna catch when he can’t even leap on a puddle for you.

Always remember that what’s demanded for is given out of compliance and what’s freely given to you is out of love, no matter how simple the gift is; the important thing is the dude thought of you and actually materialized his plans while you just waited… It’s what’s in the heart that matters. I dunno about you but I sure would love something as simple as a handwritten letter that was given to me wholeheartedly than something I demanded for that doesn’t even have a single clue of effort, thought, and love in it.

Don’t feed the fire in your heart with false hopes. Let the guy feed it with his efforts and constant love.

Don’t be pressured with the trend nowadays. Being single is not an illness. You’ll be fine, God’s hands are over your life. God’s got you.

Let Go and Let God. Let Jesus take the wheel. Stop putting God in a box. Give back the pen to the author. Flow freely to the rhythm of God’s plans for your life.

As my spiritual mum always tells me, “Sometimes what we think is the best for us, is not the best for God”

Take out all the traps you’ve set and live a stress-free life.

That's all for today!

@churchgaldiaries, signing out.xoxo