Family Matters chapter one - THE CORNERSTONES

Be like Steve Urkel : Exxcccuuse me, I got this !

With a third of marriages ending in divorce and a substantial number of families who lack a "stable home", I feel devastation in my heart for the health of families, our children and ourselves. When I feel so strongly about something, I feel inclined to talk about it ! Our heart is in our children and so we must reach out to spread the good word. If I am going to help save this world, I know I need to speak into the heart of the family as a unit. To save our world, we must inherently save our children.

As a 40 year old mother of an almost 5 year old, who has been Naturopathic Physician for the past 15 years, I see myself as an elder in training, and in this pursuit, my passion is for encouraging parents in their own emotional, mental, physical and spiritual well-being. This requires that I teach skills for how to emotionally survive and thrive in a world driven by extreme polarity.

Unless we had saints for parents, we are not born knowing how to treat each other with emotional intelligence and empathy. As a human species, the majority of people will naturally be competitive, to want to win and be right....and yet our hearts can yearn for connection and love and companionship. And so here is my beginning:

Adapted from Psychology of Vision principles
This is where we start. Where do you want to be on this chart ?

I certainly want to work towards Interdependence. This capacity is a learned skill and so something that can be taught, practiced and mastered.

At the age of 29, I started a seven year healing journey with mentors, participating in workshops, being in service to the needs of the facilitators running the workshops...every time I would walk into a workshop, I would say to myself "I believe that I have finally healed my family drama dynamics....I have healed my mistaken beliefs and those of my parents...I am ready to move into the present with my life"....and every time, I was triggered into my emotions around my family unit as it was and as it is. I can guarantee you that part of your pain within your conscious and unconscious motivations is due to your past. That anything that triggers pain is from your past. We are a product of our past, shadowed environment up until the time that we change our minds and look for another way. This is your journey and your process.

Do you recognize how many times a day you feel the lure of needing control over a situation, the end result or another person?....how many times a day you make reference to things happening "to you"...
This is homework for you...I am giving you a maximum of 3 days to actually recognize how often this is what you share, or what you think about, what you dwell on...so don't procrastinate....pay attention to your thoughts and behaviours.
If you are already aware of this within yourself, stayed tuned and prepare to find a new way

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