There are bad actors on both sides, but this doesn't address the fundamental problem. Even if we leave out the human error, we still have the small block & huge fee vs big block & few nodes problem.

Bitcoin has a fundamental flaw, the nodes dont make any money for their hosting efforts. So you artificially need to keep the blocks low in order to beg the existing nodes to keep hosting BTC. Then you end up with big fees out of which the nodes still dont get a penny.

It's just a giant mess. Dash had solved it, in Dash the nodes get paid too, so big blocks in Dash are not an issue.