Forming attachments to people

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People don’t usually form attachments straight away, but it happens when one starts to develop expectations after spending a lot of time with a person. The attachment isn’t really to the person but more about how they feel about the experience they have when with that person, and the emotions the person brings up in them.

The attachment becomes a neediness as one fears losing the way a person makes them feel thus wanting fulfillment outside the self.

We must look within and learn to love oneself. Looking for it in others is a false perception of what one really needs.

Attachment does lead to suffering because attachments are transient, so loss will be inevitable for a person. Relationships are more harmonious if one loves them for who they are and what they become. 

It is not that we should detach from people and our experiences but rather recognize that we need to surrender to any preconceptions that allow us to experience the soul self.

We need to appreciate and accept what we receive rather than trying to manipulate it. It’s also better to have goals in life without being dependent on an outcome for the same reason.