ASK KRIS: MY FRIEND SISTER'S HUSBAND IS MAKING ADVANCES ON HER

krisosa (47)in #askkris • 7 years ago (edited)

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I want to thank you Mr Kris for what you are trying to do. Truly people need a place where they can express themselves freely.
A friend of mine confided in me and told me her story, so I decided to share with her permission.

She lives in the same city with her elder sister who is married. She spends the holidays with them, help with house chores and taking care of the kids.

But her sister's husband is making advances towards her. He tries touching her in certain ways that are not healthy and tries to force(lure) her when her sister (the wife) is not around.

Now she is confuse, doesn't know what to do; if to let her sister know what is going on or to tell her mom. She feared that her sister may not believe her and then sees her as a home destroyer and blame her or believe her and then lead to a divorce.

She's seriously confuse about it as the man keep persisting. Please what do you think?

B. O.

First of all, I want to congratulate you as the first in ASK KRIS session in the STEEMIT community. Thank you!

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The issue is a tough one I must say. Well, you didn't say the age of the girl but I guess considering she has developed the feminine features, she is definitely not a minor.
I think she shouldn't take it lightly or encourage any form of advances from him, she shouldn't laugh, overlook and play off any form of touch or contact. She needs to frown and be harsh whenever he tries to touch her in any manner. By doing so, she will be passing a strong warning message to the man.

I also think she needs to avoid been alone in the house with the man. If she can't stop going to the house maybe because the wife (her sister) needs her, she should let her sister knows she will be coming with other relative of the family and she should reject enticing gifts and offers.

She should visit when she's sure her sister is sure her sister is going to be in the house. Most important, when she visits, she shouldn't be wearing transparent, mini and enticing clothes. She should be properly covered with her dress, I know she's young and may want to look enticing at all times, you know, but not in this case. In fact I will recommend a strong tight inner wears like jeans that can't be easily pulled in the case of rape.

I also think she needs to speak out to someone, someone of a fatherly nature, someone the man's respect and listens to, maybe a priest, a pastor, a psychologist or a psychiatrists, because I feel the man also need help too. He might be struggling too, that's why you need to tell someone that can talk to him and help him.