Why is it so...

If I do not talk, people bitch and whine.
If I do talk, I am disregarded and people do not pay attention.
If I don't talk, then I am shutting you out and not engaging.
If I do talk I'm imposing my opinion on the world and people within it.
If I don't talk I am a victim.
If I do talk, I am the aggressor, and hence, a victim of my own choices.
So which way do you go?