Why marriage is bullshit

For me, my marriage has been a been series of dysfunctional cliches one after the other. We argue we fight, we're hardly ever getting it right in any respect. We met ten years ago and like many young couples in their early twenties, we lived in each other's pockets, hanging out, staying in bed, a lot. And for the most part generally getting on like a house on fire. In fact, it would be safe to say we had little or no discord in our relationship. We found each other attractive. We heard each other's worries fears and reassured each other that everything would always be ok as long as we're together and that it was us against the world and we're gonna accomplish all of our respective goals and ambitions. So on and so forth. For ten months or so everything was great, young, in love, and having a great time with each other, in every regard. We became parents in the second year of our relationship, blessed. Over the following years, the realities of life have chipped away at the concrete facade of our relationship and now ten years later, the one word that springs to mind on a daily basis, the D-word, Divorce. We both compromised on our goals and lost the fire we had inside, the fire fueling the furnace which powered the engine of our ambitions and dreams has long extinguished, in its place a struggling ember desperately clinging on for oxygen in the naive hope that it might one day spring to life and become the raging inferno it once was. We've now been married about five years of our ten-year relationship. Now I cannot speak for my wife, I can only express my own feelings and speculate on hers, however, it's a safe bet that we've now developed a mutual dislike, or utter disdain if you like, the words don't matter anymore really, at this point any expression of dissatisfaction or unhappiness amounts to the same thing. We awake in the morning arguing, we sit in each others company every night pretending to be civil and deluding ourselves that our marriage is in a rocky patch and we'll work it out. We won't work it out. Neither one of us has any notion of working it out. I certainly don't anyway and I feel like pretending otherwise is just a waste of more weeks, months, years. All this being said, we have two young children and I ain't fucking tapping out on them no way. Why I think marriage is bullshit, today more than ever it is an unrealistic prospect to expect to stay attracted to the same person for the entirety of your life. I'm not going anywhere until my children are approaching college years, so I'm happy to put up with the misery of matrimony for their sake and theirs alone. My advice to anyone planning to marry is this, simply don't. By all means, have a long-term monogamous relationship, if that's your thing go for it. As soon as you stamp that marriage licence everything will change. And you'll be like oh fuck what have I done'