My first teacher is a Monk from the Korean Zen tradition. I love all the schools in Zen, they use the skillful means called upaya to it's fullest. Did you know Zen mean dhyana? Jhana is the same term as the Sanskrit dhyana, the Chinese word ch’an, and the Japanese zen.

In the Mahayana traditions a good teacher the key to success! I hope you and your husband find a home in a nice sangha.