How to handle yourself when suddenly feel angry?

Have you ever felt so angry that you thought you would break your mobile phone or your cup of tea, let the person in front of you go, or take away your own life?


Don't lie, please. Since you are a human being, you also have a mind. And it is not at all uncommon to find that mind sometimes excited. Rather, you are a very normal person, and these events bear witness to that.

So what I was saying, there are many moments in the way of life. And it is also true that every moment is an integral and very important part of life. But life does not mean just a moment. Life is the sum of countless moments. Therefore, one should never do anything in a moment of anger, which is why every other moment of life is in the pasta, jerking.

Let's not give a materialistic example first. The mobile on which you are reading this article right now is definitely not worth the price. Now if you break it down with anger for some reason, shouldn't that be too bad? You may not have enough money to buy another mobile soon. Then you have to spend several days without a mobile or borrow money to get your hands on someone, and the burden of a long time will be on the neck.

Or think of something more important. You may be sitting in front of your favorite person right now. You are very angry at any of his words or actions. So, you were foolish and without knowledge, you started to tell him what came to your head. To say it was over the limit. That is what happened. You lost the man closest to you. You lose a man whose choice you can never have in your life.

So you can understand how overwhelming anger can be at times. Anger can cause you, me, any of our lives to become burned. So controlling anger is a very important thing. If you do not control your anger at the right time, it can have dire consequences.

But it is possible to control your own anger! What else is on the mind! There is no other switch in our head that I can turn on and off by pressing it! So there is a need for a more detailed discussion on how to control your anger.

Now, there are some effective ways in which you can show that anger can be controlled, if not completely. And even with that "somewhat" anger control, it is possible to save one's life from a great tragedy.

Take a breath

In the control of anger, there can be no greater drug than breath. So when very angry, practice deep breathing. Sit down in a chair. Then continue to breathe deeply through the nose. Multiply that number by 5 to 5, and take the oxygen in your life the whole time. And work out very slowly even when you are out of breath. If possible, count up to 5 or 5. In this way, stop and do the task 3 times. And while doing this, think of something pleasant that has nothing to do with your current anger or problem.

Acknowledge you are angry

The most frightening aspect of anger is that a person who is angry may not realize it for the first time. That is not what I said a little while ago, losing interest in knowledge is just what it is. So he then begins to say or do what he wants to do in the head of anger, and that seems normal. But if you can make yourself angry with the fact that, yes, you are actually angry, then the situation will be much calmer. Because then you also realize that what you are doing is not something you would normally do.

Control the immediate response

No healthy person can be angry for a long time. It may be five, ten, fifteen minutes or half an hour; In the meantime, she does so in response to the immediate cause that she later has to shake her head. Maybe he hurt himself or someone else in the meantime, damaged something valuable, or sat down as something he should never say. The consequences of these actions can be far-reaching. So if you are aware that your anger is too much and you can settle into something terrifying right away, then you need to be aware of this in advance. Have to convince your mind again and again that you should not do such a thing. And the people closest to you should not only make you angrier at that time but also do something that will ease your anger.

Think cold

In most cases, people become emotionally overwhelmed and tend to get angry. Then he does not think about anything. He puts more importance on the mind, not on his brain. But the problem is, the human mind is so sensitive that it can change its direction at any time. So it is more important to think in the cold head than to listen to the mind at an important moment. One has to keep in mind that it is not possible to reach a solution by being angry, angry or beheaded, rather it adds many new problems to the previous problem. So by not doing anything like that, you have to worry about being cold, for whatever reason being angry, is it really logical or not. Maybe you are angry at someone who has no fault at all. It may also be that the responsibility for the whole thing is actually time, situation and reality, where no one else has anything to do. Thinking about these things, once you can enlighten your mind, anger can be easily reduced.

Walk in the fresh air

Maybe you have been sitting in a closed room for a long time, where the weather is very foggy, the temperature is too high and there is no air circulation. Being in such an environment can easily make you angry, even if your panic attack is not uncommon. If something like this happens, then try to change your environment, before getting angry or hurting your finger at someone else. Get out of the room, breathe the fresh air, take a walk. Even if you stand under a free sky for a short period of time, smell the wind, forget everything else and enjoy the beauty of nature, it can also work like magic. Even if you are not very romantic or natural-loving, you may find that there are many reasons to live, despite the problems that exist.

Count the numbers from the back

Can't go anywhere? Need to control your anger while sitting in front of a desk in the office or in the classroom? This is very difficult. Because in such a closed situation, it is not easy to think coldly or to turn one's attention to the other. But in this case, the back-counting technique can help you. When you are very angry, count down to 3 to 5 before taking any immediate action. Thinking it is very childish? Not at all. On the contrary, your brain needs to spend a little bit of attention on that task, so you can forget about your anger for a while. And in this way, it is possible to reduce anger by shifting the focus to another.

Listen to the music

Yes, listening to music can be a very good way. Even playing a favorite tune or playing can be enough to make people's minds better. And so whenever you feel anxious, excited, you can listen to the favorite song immediately with the earphones in your ear, or even loudspeaker if you are in your room. But the favorite song must be something to keep in mind. It should not be selected any song that exacerbates depression, exacerbates sadness. If you do not have a favorite song, you can search online and listen to some relaxing music. Particularly classical and jazz music is especially helpful in lightening the minds of listeners. Maybe this will work for you. You can try it once.

Write down your mind

When there is intense anger, thoughts come together in the mind. They want to shout. The person in front of me feels the desire to hear them. Or many people nowadays send these big messages to the nearest people. But these words and messages can later boom and attack you.

You may have said or written something in the heat of anger that is not in your real mind. But what if the person on the opposite side doesn't believe your claim? Then the problem will gradually increase. So the only thing you can do is to write your diary, laptop or mobile on a writing app, to keep your mind on it. There is no need to worry about such things as gram-commas, grammar. Write down the scattered words in your mind that way. You see, the mind feels very light. You can also post these articles on Facebook with "Online Me" privacy. Next, you will read the articles when the head is cold. You will find that self-assessment or knowing yourself is a very good opportunity. Isn't it better to be evaluated by others?

Turn on the lamp of positive thinking

An eternal nature of man is that when he is agitated or angry for some reason, he begins to think only of the bad things that happen to him, in order to 'justify' his plight. No, it only gets worse, and the bigger problem is, when he is talking to someone in the heat of anger, he is only the bad guy. Or talk about it. The good thing is that there are lots of things that can be avoided. Thus, the breakdown of a relationship is moving forward. So stop negative thoughts anger, think more about the positive.


Now, remember the person who is angry with you, how much he has benefited you, how much he has helped you in the face of adversity. You will see that anger has greatly reduced. Also, if you do not see the negative aspects of any event, you can look for any curse from them. Believe in yourself first of all. Repeat your mind, "Don't be disheartened. You have been able to handle many situations like this before, you can do it again. You have never lost before, you will never lose this time. In the end, you will win."

Find a solution

From a very early age you have seen all kinds of complex problems in mathematics, right? But the funny thing is, none of them are a problem anymore when you've learned how to solve them. Just like that, start thinking of any disaster in life as a problem with the book. As difficult as they may seem, at first sight, at the end of the day it is definitely worth solving. The sooner you start trying to solve it, the better you will get results. But if you just sit in a rage without trying to solve it, and worry too much, then the solution to a seemingly simple problem can become impossible.

The last word

You can follow these methods to control your anger immediately. There are several more effective ways to control anger. The first thing to do is to do something you like. If you like reading books or watching movies, start it. Cook if you want, or make your home your own. Moreover, talking to your mind is good, that is, the person who knows and understands you well, can talk to you and share your mind. But if your anger is not controlled by any of these, then you need to seek refuge from an expert. You can go to a therapist or counselor. Again, you can also take anchor management or meditation courses.