I believe that those people you are referring to are not anarchists. They are really statist or socialist, that as you well describe were at some point pro-statist, these subjects now take the path of anarchy, or so they say, but they would be the first destroyers of that same anarchy. I have seen many people who defend anarchy, but then when they see that a person does not behave as they expect, they decide to attack it and force it by force, then, in reality these people are not anarchists, they only use this disguise. Some time ago I raised a hypothesis in which I established that people who were socialists, were socialists because of their personality and not because they have learned to be so through reading, likewise, I for example, was a minarchist before knowing that was, I thought like a minarchist, but I had not studied the liberal theory, once I studied it, I identified myself as such, but I was already one of them, only ignorant of the theory. In the same way these toxic subjects that you describe, they claim to be anarchists, but their personality is that of a socialist or statist, I would dare to say, that of a dictator.
I think you're at least partially right. Underneath it all, many of these people are really tyrants.
However, I wouldn't say this applies as a rule. No matter what the belief system, some people are just mean.
Right, it's not a rule or something absolute. But people who behave like tyrants and claim to be anarchists, is it really? It's something contradictory, right? A person must be congruent with what he thinks and what he does.
Good point. They talk the talk, but don't walk the walk.