You are just making guesses about why people might be less violent. Guesses are not very helpful. Stephen Pinker goes into in depth scientific analysis via statistics to try and make the best determination of what has reduced violence. I think depending on science, rather than guesses, is a far better approach for decisions making.

As for your comment about caring people doing you to help you than the government as a poor person, are you poor enough to qualify for government assistance such as food stamps or section 8 housing?

I have numerous friends who are poor enough to qualify for government assistance, and my girlfriend depends on government assistance due to her disability. There is no way in hell that all the people who love and care about her could provide her with $12k a year to help her make ends meet, which is about how much she gets in government assistance for her disability.