Yeah, dunno - Father's Day and a catch up
I'm caught in two or three minds what to write about today, so this one could go a bit sideways.
We had a Father's Day recently. My Dad is not around any more, such is life. My Grandad is, but he is, politely, not with it that much any more. And yeah, my daughter, she's in the UK, and despite a message from me on Father's Day, I've not had a reply in the last 2.
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a little disappointed, and that it didn't make me feel upset. But I think I know where she's coming from - I moved away, Father's Day is for Dads who are awesome - in a 12 year olds mind, that does probably not class as awesome.
In the past that's been a day we've spent together, I didn't have to push for this weekend - it's one her mother did appreciate. A shame it's only yearly, I wished every weekend was considered the same way when I lived in the UK.
Now though, I'm a 2 hour flight away - one I battled for in court, and lost, and one I've asked if she's willing to take with me since. As yet, I've not had an answer. I probably should have pushed it more on my visit to the UK last month, but I've never been one to rock the apple cart.
I sent another message today, they have been read but no reply - this bums me out. In the past, I'd drink or smoke to pass these times - but now, with the sun on my back, I just sit and watch the sea.
Today I went to Porto Cristo. Rafa Nadal keeps his boat there, but I'd be lying if I said I saw him - apparently he was out of the harbour pretty early this morning. My mothers friends are cool though, I think I've scored a job as waiter. They should see me scrub a surface. Apparently, their garden needs some work - a day's hard graft sounds like something I could go for right now.
It was a nice afternoon though on the boat, the summer has arrived in Mallorca and it's t-shirts or less weather. I could do with a bit of #steemfat action though, and so it's t-shirt for me, for now. @exyle and @bkdbkd are on the island soon - familiar faces both here and at last years Steemfest. I wonder if they are still kicking it at the gym? :)
So the next couple of months I'll be enjoying the sunshine, but I've got some thoughts regarding the UK at the end of summer. Do I want to do winter there? Hell no. Do I want to see my not so little girl more? .. ya.
Living off the STEEM though, isn't going to work in the UK right now, not even if I went nuclear. And F that. To those that have self-destructed, well you aren't reading this anyway, but yeah... EOS ---->
Yesterday I bought a lilo for the beach - it's not as comfy on a towel as it was when I was 20. A tip. Don't cycle with a lilo. A sudden gust of wind could blow you sideways and onto the floor, rendering your purchase useless. Yeah, that happened, and I have the cuts to prove it. Funny though, must only have been 100 people see me fall off my bike - not the first time :)
So what's left today? The engagement Leagues, the fulltimebots, all of you still interacting and making this a social network despite the apparent uphill climb at present. Respect.
Have yourselves a fine day and night,
Asher
Hang in there Asher!
I suppose that she doesn’t do this on purpose! I hope you receieve an answer soon!
Cheers,
Peter
I was just thinking the same.
The local, instant real life easily gets priority. Sometimes replies are procrastinated because one cannot decide what to reply. I got into the pen-pal hobby in my childhood, but I constantly procrastinated writing those letters and I constantly felt bad for procrastinating it.
Yeah. A smiley face would have done, but I guess too much thinking about stuff and insta-life got in the way.
Cheers.
Yeah. I forgive her, and hope for better fathers days - I guess I'll need to be there for them.
Cheers.
I had to look up what lilo is, never heard of it, English is a second language to me.
I had to google it too and English is my first language. Must be a UK term.
whoops :)
What do you call them? Inflatable bed? :)
That would do
Or a Floatie? I've just been educated to that one :)
Floatie, air mattress , "floating thing that blows half way to Japan with you on it, sporting only a green Speedo, after you fall asleep and don't wake up until well after dark", though I could be wrong.
Never tried to bike with one, that WOULD be a trip.
I have to wear green so it only slightly clashes with my new pink li-lo :)
Is green lucky in Japan? Hopefully!
Ha haa. I don't know about Japan, but getting picked up by a freighter somewhere in the Pacific, in your speedo and pink lilo, will surely get SOME kind of reaction from the guys on board.
First impressions and all :)
Hang in there Abh! Such a beautiful view! You should start post your pics on steepshot too!
have an amazing day!
Lisa
Atl
Thank you for the words of support Lisa, much appreciated :)
You have a lovely day too :)
:)
Not much more can be said that hasn't been put forth, but I feel for you. Has to be very hard. I'm sure in time, things will be back to a more even keel, and you can resume things as desired, as she ages and matures. Guess all one can do is make sure to take the high road so it is more assured. But I can only imagine the waiting for that time must be very difficult indeed.
As for going off kilter in a sideways slant in writing, that's what it's all about, at least in MY book of thought. I appreciate your way with the word.
Yeah that's cool, I appreciate the messages I've had, even if it's only to say 'not much more to add' :) Thanks.
I don't consider myself an interesting writer, I just go for full blown honesty and see how it roles, but thanks again for boosting my confidence here too.
Just discovering you, but your writing seems interesting and quality to me. And now that you mention it, that is an interesting thought too. "Not much more to add", then write about 20 more lines anyway. Though I guess I've never been accused of succinct-ality on the site.
But I do think some of the commenting comes from people genuinely caring about others, more than some sites I've seen. Particularly if it's well written and conjures up some emotion. Though if you cut me, I pretty much only bleed Steem, social media wise. But Steemit seems to be a different sort of animal, from what I hear.
See, gonna write a line or two, ends up being seven. Yikes...
heh :)
Steemit is pretty much all my social media too right now, I fell out of love with Facebook prior to 2016, and it was Twitter where I found the site.
A bit of 'real person' blogging goes a fair way at times, people like to know about people - and I believe the majority of 'original content' is people talking a bit about themselves.
Cheers :)
I've never understood why we need these artificial holidays which create a lot of social pressure and have no real purpose. The best example is Valentine's Day when thousands of broken hearts drown themselves in alcohol...
Your daughter loves you no matter what. Believe me. There's a special bond between dads and their girls, independently if they need to pass through a complicated period of time... After a heavy argument I didn't talk to my dad for one year. Today we're the very best friends and I couldn't imagine my life without him.
Teenager girls behave in a strange manner sometimes. She'll be back for sure :-)
Big hug
Marly -
Yeah, I'm over the drowning in alcohol but for some, this reflection day is a bummer. Although for many, it is appreciated.
I'm glad you are on good terms with your dad, he will be happy for that every day. You are right about the special bond, it certainly goes both ways.
I'm feeling a bit better today, some nice messages for me - which is often the cause when I put a bit of myself out on here.
Thanks Marly x
You know where to find me when you need someone to listen or just a hug :-)
😊 thank you, Lanzarote?
Hehe, wherever :-)
:)
Good wishes to you. I don't know what your situation is exactly, but I'm sure with time your daughter will start to see the different reasons for why things happened as they did. Kids have a really small scope. You love her, and she'll figure that out. 💚
Thank you @phoenixwren. I've talked about the situation on and off, but understand how difficult is it keep on top of everyone's life/blogs.
I think she will too :)
Hard to know what to say that hasn't already been said by others.
My Human is stepdad to three (I know it's not the same thing) and even though the three (now adults) love him and were for all intents and purposes raised by him, the sum total was a brief Facebook message from the daughter. And they're adults. From a 12 year old girl? A lot more temperament and mood swings there... and I realize that just sounds like a platitude, so I'll stop.
Yeah, cycling with a lilo... especially near the coast where you get wind gusts? That could be a painful experience.
As for Steemit, I'd like to think there's enough of a dedicated core of users to turn this ship in a better direction. I guess all we can do is lead by example... and hope someone(s) follows.
=^..^=
Thanks for the comments @curatorcat, I've had some nice ones that have summed things up pretty well.
It was a decent gust, but maybe I'm looking for excuses a little ;)
@tarazkp has just published a good one today regarding Steem, and what's required to 'turn the ship'. I think there are enough decent folk knocking around and think much better days are still to come.
Cheers.
I'll check his post; he often seems to have some gold nuggets to think about.
I'd like to think this place will thrive, in time. Sometimes it seems a little ironic that those who have a LOT at stake here seem more complacent about the future than those who have relatively little and just wish for an awesome user experience.
Besides, the "greater story" of the gamification of social media seems like a really good idea.
=^..^=
This is a key concern or worry isn't it. I'm sure, or at least I hope, it's not as bad as people (including myself) think, but time after time I'm drawn to how I see large stakes being used, and it just doesn't look pretty to me.
Anyway, I'll continue as I am and pray to the Steem gods and see what happens.
Most likely a shirt for us too :). Keep your head up, man!
#steemfat shirt? 😁
Thanks man, appreciated!
I'd like to say I understand where you are at in regards to your daughter, but I never had kids, so I honestly do not. I know in time these things either work our or just stay touchy for awhile, she is 12 going on 13, the time of teenage angst stuff. She and you will find a balance. Enjoy the weather, relax a little bit, and try not to let it tear you apart, that I know will not help, it never does and yet it is the hardest thing to not do.
It will lead to anger, I remember Brian talking about needing help to dress not to long ago, I had that issue, I know what it is like to be a 40 something year old and not be able to put on your own shirt, I know the anger and the frustration from that, I know feeling like a helpless two year old at age 44. I grew past that a little bit, still 15 years later, I still get angry when my shoulders act up and I can not get the shirt or jacket on without help.
Remember the past, embrace the present and look forward to the future, things do work out, you may not totally get over the frustration and the anger at the situation, but it will get easier to deal with as time passes.
Thanks @bashadow, I try to relax and enjoy the sun each day. Being incapacitated as far as not being able to dress yourself sounds really frustrating, and I guess my 'problem' is easier to solve than that.
Cheers.
I can't say I know how it feels, but I'd say she may come around to understand why things are the way they are. In the meantime, soak in the sun and seat back and relax while you watch the sun go down. It's an exciting time to be alive; crypto on a bear move, the World Cup hype at an all time high, people doing whatever it is to be independent of the centralised institutions, etc.
I see the fulltimebot is unleashed. May the odds be in your favour. Steem on :D
I'll do those things for sure :) Cheers.