How to Be an Alpha Male: The 15 Habits You Must Develop to Be More Alpha
Want to learn how to be an alpha male? How to be more masculine? How to be the man you’ve always wanted to be?
Then you’re in the right place.
In this article, I’m going to unveil the 15 habits of alpha males that you must develop to unlock your full potential as a man and live the life you’ve always wanted to live.
But let me be clear…
This article is not about becoming ‘better’ than other men, developing an ego complex, or learning how to be the alpha of a specific clique or social circle.
It’s about learning how to be an alpha male in your life. Taking full responsibility for your life, and living every day fully alive, present, and excited for the future that you are creating.
By the time you’re done, you’ll have a step-by-step guide to becoming the man you always knew you could be.
It won’t be easy. But I promise you, it will be worth it.
And watching my video training on becoming a stronger grounded man, doubling your confidence, reclaiming your personal power and working with a mentor will greatly help too. You can watch it here.
How to Be an Alpha Male: The 15 Habits of True Alphas
- Conquer Your Fears, Embrace Discomfort, and Pursue Growth
“Wow that guy who sat on his ass his entire life and binge-watched Netflix is so inspiring!” ~No one ever
When it’s all said and done, learning how to be an alpha male is ultimately about one thing.
Living your life to the fullest.
When you think of the alpha males you know in your life (or even in the media), you will notice that the one trait they all share is a willingness to do what other people won’t. They are often doing scary, uncomfortable, and awe inspiring things with their life. They’re starting impactful businesses, traveling the world, mastering their craft, taking risks and going all in on this one existence.
Contrary to what most would consider “being alpha” to be a true alpha male is to be a man who is fully present and engaged with his life. A man who understands that life is fleeting and tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. A man who lives each day as if it’s his last and decides to conquer the fears and failings that are holding him back from the life he desires.
And to live fully, you must embrace discomfort and pursue growth as a life long pursuit, not a one time thing.
Living an exceptional life–an alpha life–is not easy. If it were, every man would do it.
It’s much easier to settle for the status quo. To take the safe and easy route, clocking in at a job you hate, settling for the first woman who will open her legs, and sedating the misery of your existence with a steady stream of vices like porn, alcohol, and mindless entertainment.
But if you’re reading this article right now, I know that you aren’t satisfied with the status quo. You want more out of life.
And to get it, you must realize that:
The worst-case scenario is less likely to happen.
Whatever you’re afraid of, you can likely recover and become stronger from it.
Right now, I want you to write down a list of everything in your life that scares you right now. Think of every area where fear is holding you back from making the moves you need to make and living the life you want to live.
Maybe you’re stuck in a job that you don’t like and you’re scared that if you start a side hustle or look for something better, you won’t be able to make it work.
Maybe you’re in a relationship that isn’t serving you and you’re worried that, if you break up, you’ll never find another woman as good as your current partner.
Maybe you’re out of shape and overweight and you’re scared of risking judgment and ridicule by going to the gym and breaking off ties with the friends who are keeping you trapped in your toxic habits.
Whatever it is, get it out of your head and onto paper.
And once you have identified the #1 fear that is holding you back, take some time to break it down.
Ask yourself:
What is the worst that can happen?
What is the best that can happen?
Do the benefits of facing this fear outweigh the negatives?
If I fail, how quickly can I recover and what will it cost me?
Once you have completed this “fear setting” exercise, you’ll realize that even the worst outcomes aren’t all that bad making it less worrisome.
True alphas know that life begins at the end of your comfort zone and the first step to becoming an alpha male is to boldly face your fears, grow and overcome them.
- Be on YOUR Path and Let No One Sway You From It
You cannot be an alpha male without a clear vision and purpose to guide you. A man without a purpose is like a leaf in the wind blowing around aimlessly.
The reason that alpha males are so inspiring that men want to learn how to be an alpha male and that women want to be with an alpha male…is that they are on their own unique path.
They have a clear mission and objective in their lives and they are striving for something that is bigger than themselves.
When you lack this purpose, when you have no clear direction in your life, you will fall victim to the circumstances and environments around you. Instead of consciously engineering the life you want, you will, by default, settle for the life that you are given.
You must chart your own path in life and take action on the destiny that you want for yourself.
So let me ask you…
What is your mission? What path are you committed to? What do you want to do before your time ends?
There are no right or wrong answers here, only answers that are authentic for you.
If your path is to work as an environmental biologist, making $45,000 a year and spending 80% of your time slugging through the wilderness and examining plants and animals…awesome! Do it and do it to the best of your ability.
If your path is to become the next Grant Cardone and build a billion-dollar real estate empire that allows you to make a massive dent in the world through charitable contributions, again…awesome! Go for it and give it all you’ve got.
Every man is different and each of us has unique gifts, desires, and abilities that we bring to the world.
The most important thing is that you pursue a mission that is true and authentic to you and that you pursue it with every ounce of energy and determination that you can muster.
Whatever it is that you want to do…whether it’s starting a business, writing a book, traveling the world, learning as many skills as you can, or simply enjoying a life filled with fun, family, and adventures… stop waiting and just do it!
Ignore those who tell you to “Be Realistic” and “Play it safe” and boldly pursue the life you want, even if it’s only for 1 hour a day.
Figure out exactly what you want out of life and make no apologies for it. Pursue your goals, your ambitions, and your desires so that you can live your life knowing that you gave it your all.
- Strive for Constant Progress No Matter How Small
True alphas are not in competition with others, but themselves.
They’re not ogling social media and comparing themselves to other men and wondering how they can “one up” other men. They don’t care that Johnny just bought a new Mercedes or that Billy got married to a beautiful woman.
The only person to whom they compare themselves is the man that they were yesterday. Because that’s the only thing that matters.
Every day, when you wake up, ask yourself, “How can I be 1% better today than I was yesterday?”
What most people fail to realize is that success–whatever that looks like to you–rarely happens because of one big move or bold action…but rather small, daily, and consistent habits completed time and time again in the pursuit of growth.
You don’t get into the best shape of your life because of one great workout and eating healthy for a day. You don’t become a millionaire because of one long day of hard work. And you won’t build an abundant dating life because of one approach.
You get into the best shape of your life by lifting just a little bit more weight today than you did yesterday. You become a millionaire by consistently providing value to the market and developing highly marketable skills. You build an abundant dating life by making it a habit to meet, have fun and connect with high quality women regularly, learning what works and what doesn’t and adjusting your strategy accordingly.
Stop looking elsewhere and just embrace this fact.
Realize that big change won’t happen overnight and that you aren’t serving anyone by comparing your life to the lives of others.
Instead, commit to 1% micro improvements every day and enjoy the process of growth.
- Avoid Arguing for the Sake of Arguing
Let me be blunt. Nothing good ever comes from senseless arguments to prove you’re Mr. Right. How many successful keyboard warriors or internet trolls can you name off the top of your head? Exactly. None.
To be an alpha male is to have a massive bias toward action and learning…not argument.
Stop wasting your time arguing about religion, politics, and philosophy with strangers on the internet (or even your best friends) and instead commit to taking action on the things you can control and improving yourself.
If you cannot act on something and make a change for the better, refrain from senseless arguments that lead nowhere. You only alienate the people you probably wish to connect with.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t have friendly debates or discuss important topics with friends. Simply that you should not engage in pointless arguments (that aren’t going anywhere) for the sake of argument and proving you are smarter.
No one wins.
- Do Good for the Sake of Goodness
One of the defining characteristics of alpha males (despite what you hear from the media) is kindness and a desire to do good. Not for the sake of recognition or acclaim, but simply for the sake of being a good man.
Beta guys will often do good to make others think highly of them, but alphas know that goodness is not an act, but a habit. It’s a part of who they are and how they live life.
True alpha males have empathy and compassion for their fellow humans. They understand that we’re all scared, confused, and lonely. That life is hard and the only way to survive on this crazy rock we call home is to band together and help one another.
That, at the end of the day, the only thing that really matters in this life is the impact you had on others.
Every day when you wake up, ask yourself, “What good can I do today?”.
Search for small opportunities to show kindness and make a point of serving others in an authentic way.
Hold the door open at the restaurant. Donate money to a cause you believe in (bonus points if you don’t tell anyone that you did this). Smile at strangers or shall I say your fellow humans that you’re sharing this world with and express genuine interest in the people you meet.
Life just isn’t all about you, you and you.
Do something each day to serve others–without expectation of anything in return–and you’re well on your way to becoming an alpha male.
Although kindness without strength is impotent, strength without kindness is empty.
- Speak Your Truth, Especially When It’s the Hard Thing to Do
Here’s a quick challenge for you…
The next time you’re out on a date or in a group of friends and someone says or does something you disagree with speak up!
Instead of hiding from conflict for fear of disapproval, speak your mind respectfully and make your stance clear.
For example, if you’re at a restaurant and your date acts rudely toward the server, call her out on it and make it clear that you won’t tolerate that kind of behavior.
Sure, the date might end then and there (which is okay…if she was acting that way to the waitstaff, imagine how she would treat you after a few months). But what’s more likely is that the woman will respect you more because you stood your ground.
Alpha males refuse to tolerate second class behavior from the people in their social or romantic circles. They are not a doormat for others to walk on and they won’t sit by when someone says or does something they believe is wrong.
Beta guys care more about other people’s opinions of them than they do their own values and beliefs.
Alphas value the opinions of people they respect but are not controlled by these opinions.
So speak your mind…especially when it’s hard.